More feelings...

It's natural you feel both great and kinda desperate with her, I used to feel the same with my ex girl friend.
Given I fucked up a lot, I can give some honest advice.

Despite all the love in the world, woman are still woman. So don't act insecure or needy; even if you feel its because of love, she WON'T like that. Remember the guy she met, try to be a better, more confident version of that, not a pussy.

Don't stop talking to other woman, I did that aswell, not good. Don't cheat on ur gf obv, but nothing wrong with flirting with other people, just so you don't lose practice and you can feel more confident around ur gf (obv dont make her jealous).

Also, I've always thought relationships are great time to cut on drinking and going out in general and working on urself, like hitting the gym more or getting better at poker.

Edit: She is hot congrats

Are you in Korea. If so, people are staring because it's an interracial couple. Prob because you guys look awesome. Like, if you are tall, white and decently looking (even average or slight below), that's a huge plus. You seem a bit insecure. Bro, there are three girls fucking texting you and trying to get with you. Why do you feel down. You should feel awesome. Also, you should be like top >1% of dicksize in all of Asia, so hey, nice dick dude.

My current gf, she seems like a whole person, balanced with school, friends, and me. And I really dig that. I always thought I would be the same and I told her that I would put school above anything right now. And I thought I wanted a girl who wanted the same thing. Anyway she agreed, and for some reason it bothered me....MAKES NO FUCKING SENSE...Like I would want her to say something like "No, I want to put you first. But since you asked I will try..."

Uh... then you go get hit by a car, she runs to you crying and says, "bb no.. i ment 2 sey I will love u FIVE-ever& put u b4 NEthang, even skewl"?

just enjoy it, once you turn 25 your hair starts falling out and your life is over.

pic of you.

Oh boy .... Where to start ? Well, your thoughts and reasoning are both flawed: We all tend to happiness and resisting falling in love don't make any sense, it's like trying to shut down the sun. You can't help it period, it's in our nature. Now you're left with two options: Either renounce to love for the rest of your life, which is on the long run not sustainable OR go with your feelings and jump off the cliff again knowing the landing could be ok or it could be a mess. But at least you're aware of it now even if you can't do jackshit about it.... Obviously, we both know only option 2 is viable. Good luck mate.

Korean women have really clear skin.

this girl is fkn hot

the fk is she with u LOL, we demand pictures of u now in order to solve the puzzle of this emo crisis

seriously though, one quote that I think caters to your interest is "women are only as loyal as their next best option"

basically, if you aren't good looking then you are probably funny as fuck or just an awesome person to be around which is what she values way more than looks. if this is the case then the only thing u could do to turn her off is to be the opposite of that :D

edit: is arirang just assuming you are white or are you korean

What is this? A sitcom? One foot in the door, the other out?

Sounds like you have commitment issues and your insecurities is going to start showing and she'll see you as a baby back bitch.

Just do what Achoo said.


HUHU OUT.

Yup, you're going to lose her soon. Keep writing love poems and bringing her flowers. Gets the girl EVERY time

what stakes do you play

Love grows organically. Try not to worry about all of these questions and just have fun with her, spend time with her, treat her well, but don't put the pussy on a pedestal.

It can hurt sometimes, but certain rewards take risks.

On October 02 2012 02:23 bigredhoss wrote: just enjoy it, once you turn 25 your hair starts falling out and your life is over.

On October 02 2012 07:43 RaiNKhAN wrote: this girl is fkn hot the fk is she with u LOL, we demand pictures of u now in order to solve the puzzle of this emo crisis seriously though, one quote that I think caters to your interest is "women are only as loyal as their next best option" basically, if you aren't good looking then you are probably funny as fuck or just an awesome person to be around which is what she values way more than looks. if this is the case then the only thing u could do to turn her off is to be the opposite of that :D edit: is arirang just assuming you are white or are you korean

i guess i'm funny, i always make her laugh

i guess the dilemma stems from the fact that i want to be normal, and not so zany. i want to just be a regular me sometimes and i don't think she'll find that attractive. so i show her a better me, but i'm not quite sure how long i can keep it up for :o

post a pic of you, so we can judge you.

I think your mind and heart are in the right place. Proper relationship management takes a lot of discipline, self-awareness, and generally goes against the Disney bullshit you see all around you, but it's one of the foundations of long-term romantic happiness.

You have to make peace with the fact that one day she may leave you and you will be all alone. And you'll be okay. Accept that you may lose her one day and in that acceptance, you'll find the peace and confidence to enjoy every minute you do have with her to the fullest.

Ironically, this is the mentality you need the most if you want to have a chance of keeping a girl in love with you as long as possible. Always strive to be confident and willing to walk away if your expectations aren't being met. If you find yourself acting overly desperate or needy, why indulge in that behavior (if you don't like yourself being that way)? Take some time away from her, set boundaries, and then enjoy her company again without guilt.

You're the man. It's your life that you're inviting her to share in. In modern society, no one person can forcibly impose his/her will over another so just accept that you both are totally free, autonomous beings. As you said, one day she might leave, but if/when she chooses to do so, you wouldn't want to keep her around against her natural desires anyway so it's not a true loss.

Also, I respectfully disagree with Achoo. "Going with your feelings" and "jumping off a cliff" sound nice but most of the time they're just excuses for total emotional self-indulgence. You're an adult. Do you binge on ice cream whenever you feel like it? Enjoy love like any other amazing pleasure in life - with fearlessness, intelligence, foresight, and moderated abandon.

I'm shocked by your correctness, I'd rather have a "fuck you Achoo you emo faggot", seems more std on this site lol ... You tackled it good I never said to slit your wrists, just go with the seasons and enjoy life, that's my contention