Charisma? Personality?

takes balls to make this blogpost

Just re-roll.

plastic surgery + http://www.amazon.com/Social-Skills-for-Dummies/lm/3FDOTCDJ8F8L

When you meet someone new, shake their hands for at least 6 seconds, that starts some production of oxytocin, that makes u both like eachother a little more.

Ok, that's all I got atm!! (at the moment)

Also, we can merge the two I think, carismality!! I just made that up, but I think it might catch on. Let me use it in a sentence for you.



Mike: Who is that Mariuslul anyway??

Hot gurl: Awh, u dun know him!!

Hot Gurl: He's damn carismally I'll let you know

Mike: Ah ok, one of those. Cool cool, I'll make sure to treat him with the propper respect in the future

Hor gurl: You better!!

Mike: I most definitely will

Hot Gurl: mm, popstickles

Mike: fml

On December 11 2012 18:28 Mariuslol wrote: When you meet someone new, shake their hands for at least 6 seconds, that starts some production of oxytocin, that makes u both like eachother a little more. Ok, that's all I got atm!! (at the moment) Also, we can merge the two I think, carismality!! I just made that up, but I think it might catch on. Let me use it in a sentence for you. Mike: Who is that Mariuslul anyway?? Hot gurl: Awh, u dun know him!! Hot Gurl: He's damn carismally I'll let you know Mike: Ah ok, one of those. Cool cool, I'll make sure to treat him with the propper respect in the future Hor gurl: You better!! Mike: I most definitely will Hot Gurl: mm, popstickles Mike: fml

This is awkward

i'm far from an expert on the subject but it seems to me like the main reason is that math/history/etc. can be learned formally, while learning how to act in social situations is largely a matter of how we pick up on subconscious cues in the moment. idk, it seems like the best way to improve is just to gain more experience by being put in more social situations. other than that i dunno, i guess some understanding of psychology could probably help?

havent read any previous posts but so called charisma comes from your satisfaction of fullfilling your life, standing ur grounds etc, ie do that you like to the limits and youll be a rockstar

I think the point bigredhoss makes is good... it seems a lot of it revolves around intuition. dogmeat's right too, you can increase it by knowing who you want to grow yourself into, and working towards achieving that.

yea i like dogmeat's post

but even if i immerse myself in social situations, i don't feel as though i am learning anymore. i am just reacting with the same algorithm that i have used for the past 10 years. like jungleman, i think conscious efforts and maybe even professional analysis might help :o

On December 11 2012 18:28 Mariuslol wrote: When you meet someone new, shake their hands for at least 6 seconds, that starts some production of oxytocin, that makes u both like eachother a little more.

hahaha. yeah. do this. people won't think you're a weirdo, nope. not at all.

I would say it is indeed taught, just not formally. The concept of a school and forced interactions with other students helps improve ones charisma.

I would also say that Sports, Clubs, and anything in a group setting will one way or another increase ones Charisma, whether you're leading or not, as long as you play a role I believe you can build off of that and develop charisma.

imo it's all self-value and how you demonstrate that to others.


Want to be more charismatic? One of the easiest ways I've done so in a way is I have improved the way I dress, especially at work. My job I can wear and have worn jeans a t-shirt M-F. Now I wear a suit and tie everyday, I don't want to be a dick, but I like the image I'm portraying. Professional, well dressed, clean... I've gotten a large positive reaction, from people saying simple things like nice tie to people asking me where they should go to get dress shoes.

Any book of body language will help; I think it's about reading the people next to you and act acording to that (actually the same way as it is in poker).

Confidence is a characteristic that attracts people, based on natural instincts; is important not to get arrogant tho.

Actually howto-flirt books would help you with both points.

also seriously get this book

http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034

It's been out there for a long time

On December 11 2012 22:34 mnj wrote: but even if i immerse myself in social situations, i don't feel as though i am learning anymore. i am just reacting with the same algorithm that i have used for the past 10 years. like jungleman, i think conscious efforts and maybe even professional analysis might help :o

100% truth. its like chess. In terms of results, 1 hour of focused study is worth 1 month of "experience" playing.

I think a lot of it comes from just being confident and comfortable in who you are. It is a lot easier to be charismatic when you truly believe that your opinions and thoughts are things that other people would want to hear. The same goes for believing that you are someone other people would want to spend time with. If you don't have confidence in yourself, you're just going to come off as awkward, or, at the very most, some guy who is constantly trying to find his identity based on the things he says to people. Learn to accept who you are appreciate it - generally, people find it easy to interact with a person who is confident in who he is. As long as you have a basic understanding of social norms you should develop more of a personality with time.

Dogmeats post is great.

The only things I know are:
Don't mention the weather in conversations
Saying something is always better than saying nthing
Be the first person in an encounter to take initiative - shake hands/introduce yourself

On December 11 2012 19:52 iop wrote: Show nested quote + On December 11 2012 18:28 Mariuslol wrote: When you meet someone new, shake their hands for at least 6 seconds, that starts some production of oxytocin, that makes u both like eachother a little more. Ok, that's all I got atm!! (at the moment) Also, we can merge the two I think, carismality!! I just made that up, but I think it might catch on. Let me use it in a sentence for you. Mike: Who is that Mariuslul anyway?? Hot gurl: Awh, u dun know him!! Hot Gurl: He's damn carismally I'll let you know Mike: Ah ok, one of those. Cool cool, I'll make sure to treat him with the propper respect in the future Hor gurl: You better!! Mike: I most definitely will Hot Gurl: mm, popstickles Mike: fml This is awkward

Just tip of the iceberg, u should meet me irl xD