I read a stat the other day that among Gen Z males, suicide is up 40%. Among Gen Z females it is up 56%. I can feel it. I try not to feel it so much for my own mental health but the truth shall set you free. Why are so many people committing suicide these days, how can I avoid it myself and how can I potentially help others?
I guess that is a potentially dark start. It's so crazy how all of us specs are just floating around existing. I am at my brother's house with my parents helping out with babysitting. I'll probably crash before midnight. I don't know if that is depressing or not. I'm reading a good book (Sentimental Education by Flaubert). I'm safe, I'm healthy, I'm not feeling that bad really. NYE is amateur night out in da club. I don't want to be around a bunch of belligerent drunks. So, per usual I am empty, alone, and listening to Andy Stott.
That's the thing about hedonic adaptation. Most people would probably say my life sucks. Especially, this underlying concern about money but I don't know it's not that bad. Constantly being tortured would be worse. There are a number of things that would make my life better. Hedonic adaptation and entrenched habit and I am ok but it also keeps me from getting better. How much better would I get? What is the word like marginal gains? What if it is really difficult to just get a little bit of improvement?
I don't need Rick Owens clothing. I don't need a lot of material anything.
Exercise - check
Connection - oops
Meditation - sometimes
It would obviously be better to have a consistent meditation practice.
Gratitude - sometimes
Sleep - I typically sleep pretty well
That is the foundation of "happiness" even though I don't like that word.
I know connection is important but I am too broke to have friends at this point. It's not so bad up North where I can spend time with my siblings, etc. but down South all I have is my parents and that is not healthy. So, it always comes back to being broke. Get a job you bum! And that's basically it.
A job in these happiness scenarios is just assumed or a job that isn't too bad which may be more difficult to acheive than most people think. The quest for bread. It afflicts all the disinherited.
I think I'm just feeling a little antsy. Spending too much time with family can wear on anybody. Close quarters. There is no where for me to go except for the gym and I took a day off today. We need distractions and I need free or extraordinarily cheap activities.
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asdf2000 United States. Jan 01 2025 06:37. Posts 7708
Which generation is Z? The latest one? Each generation is more confused than the last, and I don't blame them. How can we help them? I would say mentor them, but do so from a place of patience and respect. The world can be so isolating these days, many people probably just need someone they feel like they can trust. What a healthy question for you to be asking by the way.
>Constantly being tortured would be worse.
seems like a low bar haha
I am struggling with hedonism myself. I frequently seem to be forced into these periods where I don't have much to do - or so I tell myself. But I have been avoiding the really good stuff like hard exercise, more meditation, studying. I'd like to stop jacking off for a while. When I tell myself that, I end up jacking off more. I haven't been sleeping well. There's plenty of reasons to feel sorry for myself, that's for sure. But it's not who I want to be.
I feel a change-a-comin. I know making myself uncomfortable is good for me.
I'd tell you something like "appreciate your time you still have with your family!", like everyone does and everyone already knows that anyways. And if I am being honest, were my family still around, I'd probably only be able to take an hour or 2 of them before I'd need some alone time. Luckily I do still have my daughter. Ironically, there' a lot of similarities with her to what I had with my wife(no being gross). I am pretty lucky that my daughter is awesome and we love each other very much.
Why take the day off, if taking a day off means you fill that time with something bad? Unless your body needed it, I suppose.
Here are some ideas: watch a new show. watch thunderbolt fantasy lol. i just watched demon lord 2099, it was fun.
learn a new language. do you know how to program? learn a programming language.
play a computer game. I've been playing tales of maj eyal.
is your place dirty? clean it up
stretch, get flexible. i've been delving into instagram feeds of these guys who just post different mobility routines, they make it a little more interesting since there are so many.
happy new year man
Grindin so hard, Im smashin pussies left and right.
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PuertoRican United States. Jan 01 2025 07:31. Posts 13158
On January 01 2025 05:37 asdf2000 wrote:
Which generation is Z? The latest one? Each generation is more confused than the last, and I don't blame them. How can we help them? I would say mentor them, but do so from a place of patience and respect. The world can be so isolating these days, many people probably just need someone they feel like they can trust. What a healthy question for you to be asking by the way.
>Constantly being tortured would be worse.
seems like a low bar haha
I am struggling with hedonism myself. I frequently seem to be forced into these periods where I don't have much to do - or so I tell myself. But I have been avoiding the really good stuff like hard exercise, more meditation, studying. I'd like to stop jacking off for a while. When I tell myself that, I end up jacking off more. I haven't been sleeping well. There's plenty of reasons to feel sorry for myself, that's for sure. But it's not who I want to be.
I feel a change-a-comin. I know making myself uncomfortable is good for me.
I'd tell you something like "appreciate your time you still have with your family!", like everyone does and everyone already knows that anyways. And if I am being honest, were my family still around, I'd probably only be able to take an hour or 2 of them before I'd need some alone time. Luckily I do still have my daughter. Ironically, there' a lot of similarities with her to what I had with my wife(no being gross). I am pretty lucky that my daughter is awesome and we love each other very much.
Why take the day off, if taking a day off means you fill that time with something bad? Unless your body needed it, I suppose.
Here are some ideas: watch a new show. watch thunderbolt fantasy lol. i just watched demon lord 2099, it was fun.
learn a new language. do you know how to program? learn a programming language.
play a computer game. I've been playing tales of maj eyal.
is your place dirty? clean it up
stretch, get flexible. i've been delving into instagram feeds of these guys who just post different mobility routines, they make it a little more interesting since there are so many.
happy new year man
Since I can't sleep yet and have some time to kill I will respond to maybe every aspect of your response.
Which generation is Z? The latest one? Each generation is more confused than the last, and I don't blame them. How can we help them? I would say mentor them, but do so from a place of patience and respect. The world can be so isolating these days, many people probably just need someone they feel like they can trust. What a healthy question for you to be asking by the way.
I don't even know Gen Z. Maybe, 1 - 20? Or, it's one below Millennials. I think we are oldest millennials. Millennials are 27-42. Gen Z is 12-27. I worked with a lot of Gen Z at my last job. They are really astute in some ways but yes as you said the world has them all fucked up in some ways too. The atomization of millennials and gen z today is atrocious. I feel very alone a lot of the time. I can sort of trick myself to believing I'm some sort of solitary genius but that is ridiculous. I am happy to have my alone time but deep down I yearn for more. In fact, I was mostly alone all of 2024 and it's fucked up. I can only read so many books. Hell, I wrote two unfinished novels. Maybe 60,000+ words. I may or may not attempt another. On the brightside, I feel that the 2nd attempt was far superior to the first but who really knows. Reading, walking, lifting is the core of subduing my lonliness but I yearn / crave for more.
The spray bottle at the gym today was not working well so when I put it back this attractive woman was waiting for me and before I even started telling her that the "spray bottle does not work so well" she gave me this great smile that I thought was kind of strange. She had headphones on too with probable blasting music so maybe she just smiled because she did not hear what I said and I smiled. Either way the eye contact and smile lifted me up. That's how little connection I get these days that just exchanging smiles and eye contact with a woman lifts me up. I guess that sort of thing would lift my spirits even if I was fucking 3 bitches at a time but it is a window to more and no, fucking 3 bitches at a time is not my goal.
>Constantly being tortured would be worse.
seems like a low bar haha
Yeah, torture is just on my mind as the last handful of books I've read have included torture (American Psycho by Bret Eaton Ellis and Torture Garden by Octave Mirbeau). I think people would actually adapt to torture as well but it would be a hellish existence nonetheless. Then there is this idea of going from peak pleasure to torture or torture to peak pleasure. In the Torture Garden one would go from death, decay, torture to wondrous gardens. The flowers would never smell sweeter.
I am struggling with hedonism myself. I frequently seem to be forced into these periods where I don't have much to do - or so I tell myself. But I have been avoiding the really good stuff like hard exercise, more meditation, studying. I'd like to stop jacking off for a while. When I tell myself that, I end up jacking off more. I haven't been sleeping well. There's plenty of reasons to feel sorry for myself, that's for sure. But it's not who I want to be.
I have found libido to be complicated. It may be part of the reason I do anything. It can be tiresome. Ricard and Cobain both talk about libido and the mosquito. Sure sometimes my libido is a mosquito but other times it's a fucking freight train or not really anything at all. I was just plain tired of it so I caved and masturbated yesterday. I go to the gym and it just fires back up again. At least I'm not compulsively looking at pictures of pornstars the past 2 days.
It is wise not to feel sorry. As corny as it may be gratitude can work wonders. I don't want to be that person throwing pity parties all the time either.
I feel a change-a-comin. I know making myself uncomfortable is good for me.
That is the key or at least one of the keys. I actually hate being uncomfortable. It may be one of my biggest flaws. Where I am at though, to go anywhere, to do anything, I am going to have to be a bit uncomfortable.
I'd tell you something like "appreciate your time you still have with your family!", like everyone does and everyone already knows that anyways. And if I am being honest, were my family still around, I'd probably only be able to take an hour or 2 of them before I'd need some alone time. Luckily I do still have my daughter. Ironically, there' a lot of similarities with her to what I had with my wife(no being gross). I am pretty lucky that my daughter is awesome and we love each other very much.
Yeah, family is great and also annoying. I will likely never have kids so will never truly understand the parent / child bond from the parent's perspective. That is awesome you have that bond though.
Why take the day off, if taking a day off means you fill that time with something bad? Unless your body needed it, I suppose.
It was a scheduled day off. I take the day off after back day and leg day.
Here are some ideas: watch a new show. watch thunderbolt fantasy lol. i just watched demon lord 2099, it was fun.
learn a new language. do you know how to program? learn a programming language.
play a computer game. I've been playing tales of maj eyal.
is your place dirty? clean it up
stretch, get flexible. i've been delving into instagram feeds of these guys who just post different mobility routines, they make it a little more interesting since there are so many.
I never posted about it but I told my brother about Thunderbolt Fantasy and we watched episode 1, scene 1 on YouTube and thought it was awkward like you said. I didn't have access to LP so we couldn't watch the whole first episode.
I am learning French on Duolingo.
I was learning Python but did not feel the work was worth it. I'm not going to get good enough to get a job so dropped it.
I was playing World of Warcraft Classic until visiting family. I may or may not pick that back up when I get home.
Yeah, cleaning is rarely a waste.
I'm all for mobility but I am skeptical about how much flexibility can improve. I think mobility and flexibility are different things or at least I think certain mobility work is superior to "standard" stretching:
I found this subreddit about lookmaxxing. I think it brings up some good points but it seems like a lot of the sentiment is geared towards surgeries. There is not a whole lot people can do to look maxx tbh. Hit the gym, eat well, haircut, style, skincare. For me the big one this year was I realized my hair is starting to thin. Whether that is because of old age, stress, or both this year I do not know. I'm not going to get any voodoo remedies though. Just buzzcut and beard for me. Luckily, I have good beard genetics and a buzzcut suits me. I'm going to start doing a 1 all around and trim my beard to 3 mm. That will be the go to. I've noticed I'm starting to get some bags under my eyes. No idea why. Probably just old age and stress again. So, in 3 years I went from having glorious hair to thinning. Looksmaxxing says male pattern baldness equals death. I am just trying to age gracefully. People always thought I looked younger than my age but those days look to be over.
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