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Perisie . Jul 20 2010 18:09. Posts 801

in british english we are brought up from birth to automatically feel inclined to say "please", "thanks" and "sorry" in a massive variety of social situations.

the nature of please and thanks, and sorry, is something of great interest - and importance.

let me get to the point quickly:

have you ever found yourself saying "sorry" when obviously you are not at fault?
have you ever found yourself saying "sorry" just because it was something you automatically say?
have you ever found yourself saying "thanks" when you have no reason to be grateful?
have you ever found yourself saying "thanks" when you've felt a simple nod of the head would surfice?
have you ever found yourself saying "please" and wondering if you sound like a pussy?
have you ever found yourself wondering why you say "please", "thanks" or "sorry" or any number of other social terms and wondering why in all honesty are they required?

one classic british example is when you pass a person in a narrow corridor whilst at work (eg a nursing home or office when people are passing by one another constantly).

in this example, you are in a hurry and have passed two dozen people already that day. You walk down the corridor and a person stands aside to let you pass.

you have the option of responding in several ways:
saying "thanks", a nod of the head, or by in future occaisions standing aside yourself in order to let a person pass in a reflection of mutual respect.

in my experience:

personally, if i stand aside for someone who is hurry by me, and they do not say "thanks", it does not bother me. i expect them to show the same respect to me when i am hurry by them (ie standing aside for me), and do not require other physical acknowledgement.

personally, if someone stands aside for me when i am hurry by, if i do NOT say "thanks!" or offer some other social jibe such as "whoops!" or something equally retarded, then that person who has stood aside for me TAKES GREAT AND LASTING OFFENSE, AND OFTEN MAKES A LOUD REMARK SUCH AS A SARCASTIC "THANK_YOUUU_". that person will continue to bare a grudge and their opinion of me will decrease and they will find me rude and start to hate on me.

another examples:

someone crashes into you in the street, obviously their fault. you say "excuse me" or "sorry".

another example:

someone says "good morning" to you (or to the world) as they enter work. you say "hey there" or "good morning" back. except that they dont hear you. they then repeat, in a very agitated tone "GOOD MORNING??????" and become pissed off as if you personally disrespected them.

another example:

i go into a store and ask for directions to the bank. the middle-aged woman tells me the directions. i say "thanks, bye". the woman responds with "thankyou!". i feel a little bad for her.

this social brainwashing is terribad in england and i can only imagine it is even worse in the USA from my limited but retarding experience in that country.

i believe that certain cultures (such as Bulgaria?) have far more sensible cultural etiquittes that do not border on religion.

i could go into more detail but hopefully it isnt necessary. no im not some socially-retarded freak, i just dont want to conform to obviously retarded over-standards that are expected by ESPECIALLY older people in certain places ive experienced.

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Last edit: 20/07/2010 18:21

goose58 United States. Jul 20 2010 18:29. Posts 871

its called common courtesy

Perisie . Jul 20 2010 18:36. Posts 801

obviously you are too simple to address the issue at hand, anyone else? :/

rgfdxm United States. Jul 20 2010 18:45. Posts 1514

good god, you wanted to move to Japan?!

Perisie . Jul 20 2010 18:48. Posts 801

why cant you open your eyes? im familiar with japanese culture and also with adhearing to social etiquette and standards (being probably one of the few people here who actually have proper jobs). this doesnt mean that i cant make a thread on a poker forum and get other peoples and other cultures ideas and opinions about this

lucifer Sweden. Jul 20 2010 19:35. Posts 5955

You haven't pointed out an issue and frankly make no sense at all.

On February 19 2009 22:21 Confedrate wrote: i dont get it

MilZo France. Jul 21 2010 02:35. Posts 1333

"have you ever found yourself saying "please" and wondering if you sound like a pussy?"

Come on, man...

P.S.: yes, I'm socially brainwashed, sorry
P.P.S.: thanks for reading

S1KLYF, this is the profession we chose

TBB United States. Jul 21 2010 02:45. Posts 781

angst angst angst

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