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chisp United States. Nov 18 2010 20:30. Posts 0 | | |
Hello LP, I made a second account as I want to remain anonymous on this, but I frequent LP a decent amount.
I'm a fairly nerdy guy, and I don't have many friends, but the ones I do I spend a good portion of time with. Over the years, many of them have moved away to various colleges
My friend, after getting in a bad car accident over the weekend, died today of his injuries. I have been doing my best since the crash to tell myself he is going to be good as new, but now I have literally become emotionally frozen. I have no idea what to do...
I am extremely depressed atm. He was the guy I have been hanging out with, drinking with, playing poker with, etc for about the past year, and I don't really have any other friends left. I'm thinking about going to see a therapist or someone to talk to about it, but I don't think my health insurance will cover it and I don't have much money at the moment.
It is making me angry as I write to be even talking about this, because why should I be worried about how I feel right now? My friend is dead, and his parents are feeling likely just unspeakable pain. This makes me feel even worse, and very selfish. It is making me analyze everything that is negative about myself, and I feel more depressed than I have ever felt in my life.
Anyone have any advice on what I should do? Would really appreciate it right now. Thanks
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NewbSaibot United States. Nov 18 2010 22:53. Posts 4946 | | |
If you have a dark sense of humor, click here + Show Spoiler +
Siiigghhh.... cant believe im gonna do this, but..... I'll give you one, ONE, topless picture of my wife... but I swear to god if you show anybody....
Would you like some money?...
The great thing about people is they can be replaced...
Hey lets go get a couple of beers.... oh you live in Wisconsin, nm...
Man thats really tough, I wish I could relate but I've never lost anyone close to me. All my friends are still alive, and we're hanging out tomorrow.....
Just think for a second, he may have been fully aware of his pain the whole time, each and every single second begging for the nightmare to end....
Imagine what he was thinking about the second he got hit by the car. Then imagine what he was thinking about the second after....
HU 4 rollz?
Maybe he did something really bad and karma's a bitch....
Or maybe you did something really bad, and karma's a bitch...
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These were all the things I was thinking of saying to try and be humorous and put a smile on your face. But I decided not to because I was worried people might get offended. Anyway, sorry to hear about your friend, but try to think of life as a gift, one big fun journey, and think of the good times that yall had together. Celebrate his life, and not his death, and realize that you have so much more life yourself left to live, and to live it with others who will enjoy it with you as much as you did with him..
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i think only the time can really help, don t go to see any therapist if you are short in money, it won t really help and probably cause you more stress.
you should def make some sport, and reset your goal in life, follow a good path, that your friend can be pride of you.
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JSquids United States. Nov 19 2010 06:24. Posts 1142 | | |
it was about a year ago my identical twin bro was killed in a car accident by a speeding driver. death is irreversible. time helps. grieve properly. always remember but never obsess. |
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boreHM Netherlands. Nov 19 2010 08:04. Posts 1595 | | |
sorry for your loss
time will help
do lots of stuff (job worked for me) to keep your mind off things |
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qwerty67890 New Zealand. Nov 19 2010 11:42. Posts 14026 | | |
very sad to hear you lost such a close friend.
not that im an expert, but youll be experiencing the 5 stages of grief, and basically everything youve written seems entirely normal.
definitely go and talk with someone (maybe his parents if you were close with them by proxy) and things will improve slowly with time - you just have to let the process takes its course. |
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milkman United States. Nov 19 2010 15:24. Posts 5719 | | |
talk with people, talk to your parents and explain how you feel.. talk to any other friends, talk to his parents.. the fact that your trying to get to see a therapist is great and very smart of you, there is almost always a way you can reach one even if you dont have money. start looking at your school or talking to your parents about helping you see one. If those dont work then start looking online in your area and on craigslist for any therapists that might be willing to help for free.. i remember my brothers girl friend was able to have one on a pretty constant base and she didnt pay anything.. you seem like a smart guy and to have your head on straight.. just keep working at getting better and dont do anything stupid and you will get through it. |
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