potential downsides of a poker lifestyle

I ofcourse realise that a lot of this is "LDO" stuff to probably most of you, but that doesn't mean it's not worth discussing, cause it is an important and relevant topic and to even gain a slightly more complete or different perspective from the mostly similar things you've thought of independently could be v valuable

Ask Joe what the downsides are.

"poker brings negative consequences to is social development"

sums it up

there are no jobs like this where u can basicly get by easily without ever talking to another person

imo there is a bigger chance that u might become 1, emotionless robot 2, drug addict 3, mental wreck

I agree, Rikd's comment sent a chill down my spine. The longest stretch of time I have solely derrived my income from poker was about 5 months so I perhaps have only a limited perspective, but I have been playing the game for almost 10 years in some capacity and feel I have valid input. Playing cards all day long really distorts your world in three signifigant ways; social, health/sleep, sense of reality.

The social ramifications are different depending if you play live or online. For the live players I find that since there is little or no need to restrain yourself or your opinions you generally become more vulgar, abrasive and develop a "fuck you" mentality towards anyone that attempts to change or correct your behaviour. For the online players, increasing isolation and solitude lowers your drive to develop your relationships with others. The symptoms resemble those that were cited for mmorpg addicts. I am sure you could locate relevent links if you do not already know about this quirky phenomenon. In both cases a lack of empathy towards others makes you less aproachable, and since the player has found no value in developing these areas it begins to cycle inwards. For me this was a main factor in my decision to make poker a subsidiary source of income.

Health and sleep are efffected in tandum because as you become more and more involved in the refinement of mental, ethreal skills you naturally think less about your physical self. A lack of excercise slows the mental process making you more tired from both physical and mental forms of exertion making you more apathetic towards doing anything more than is necessary. The combination of lack of exercise and the fact that there is no need to follow any form or real world schedule your sleep patterns become distorted and again begin a spiral of being more tired yet unable to attain a deep, restful sleep.

The poker player has a distorted sense of reality for a multitude of reasons; lack of responsibility and accountability to others, a natural devaluation of money, no concept of hard work, an increasingly egocentric mental state, diminishing empathy to others hardships.

Not every person will fall prey to all of these traits. I know some players that are very health conscience for instance, but I try to show as many of the downsides as I could.
Some of these are from personal experience and others from observation of others. I also think that the type of person that generally gravitates towards the game and has success is already a little warped in other aspects of their lives, but I digress.

Most of the people I hang out with are my coworkers and friends of coworkers
When I played online poker, I rarely hung out with anyone.

I've never had more friends but I've never been more poor.

I think I'd rather have the money, people suck.

What you said about the side effects of mastering something such as poker, you improve you as a person is quite true.
Anything that you hyper-focus, get addicted to, and master will without a doubt allow you many happy accidents of improvement to one's self.

Whether it is finding other people talented in that field and increasing your network of knowing cool people
or something more substantial such as if you master basketball a side effect would be you getting in shape

Diversifying your talents will no doubt improve your ways that are both seen and unforeseen so it's a great idea to keep moving on and trying new things that are interesting.

If you guys can be a pro poker player, one of the toughest things in the world, you can do anything.

On September 15 2012 14:55 sniderstyle wrote: If you guys can be a pro poker player, one of the toughest things in the world, you can do anything.

That's not true, having the skillset to be a poker player dsnt really able you to do "anything", and being a poker player certainly isnt one of the toughest things in the world, it just requires a few particular skills that are quite rare in the population. That's just my opinion obv

Andrewsong's blog is pretty informative or at least was. He had his epic "I made xx at 18, xx at 21" post. I enjoyed it a lot. I think people who will have the most insight are people who have left poker. I THINK twisted, sakisaki, nolan, all left for their own specific, personal reasons but I can't help but think it converges at "Am I going to play poker for the rest of my life?" It's difficult to do something that provides no social value. It's not even like competitive sports where at least there are tons of spectators and good projects such as charity. For instance, the NBA does a fantastic job of growing its image and has its players participate in a wide range of charities including local American ones like Katrina but also the Haiti earthquake. Additionally when you become obsessed with sports, you don't really risk a chance of ruin in the same way gambling addiction can ruin a person's life or family or friends.

Poker is one of the most cut throat industries out there. It blows my mind that people still want to play. I can't help but feel as though if you weren't one of the first adopters of poker (so around 26-30 now) you simply can not move through the stakes any more. It reminds me of the importance of timing in the book Outliers, where some of the poker players's success is random chance. IE you were 18 (no job responsibilities), had a credit card (financial possibility), you were in college away from home (freedom). Even people who are currently 20-24, I feel as though they have had much limited success due to timing. Once again they were the next wave and had less of a poker pie to eat from.

ANYWAY definitely ran off a tangent, but I think it takes a person with the insane amount of mental fortitude, confidence in one's own ability, and independence or the lack of need of attention/approval. Oddly enough delusions might prove useful in the latter category, people such as jungleman/wobbly/marshall come to mind.

you think to much thats 1 side effect

On September 15 2012 16:21 MiPwnYa wrote: Show nested quote + On September 15 2012 14:55 sniderstyle wrote: If you guys can be a pro poker player, one of the toughest things in the world, you can do anything. That's not true, having the skillset to be a poker player dsnt really able you to do "anything", and being a poker player certainly isnt one of the toughest things in the world, it just requires a few particular skills that are quite rare in the population. That's just my opinion obv

yeah this. To me the hardest job i've ever had was unloading fish from a boat all day with the crims. That min-wage labor work is just so much more of a grind to me than poker, humans arn't meant to be working physically 12 hours a day dammit. And the job never exercised my brain so it also sucked because of that.

On September 15 2012 16:26 mnj wrote: Andrewsong's blog is pretty informative or at least was. He had his epic "I made xx at 18, xx at 21" post. I enjoyed it a lot. I think people who will have the most insight are people who have left poker. I THINK twisted, sakisaki, nolan, all left for their own specific, personal reasons but I can't help but think it converges at "Am I going to play poker for the rest of my life?" It's difficult to do something that provides no social value. It's not even like competitive sports where at least there are tons of spectators and good projects such as charity. For instance, the NBA does a fantastic job of growing its image and has its players participate in a wide range of charities including local American ones like Katrina but also the Haiti earthquake. Additionally when you become obsessed with sports, you don't really risk a chance of ruin in the same way gambling addiction can ruin a person's life or family or friends. Poker is one of the most cut throat industries out there. It blows my mind that people still want to play. I can't help but feel as though if you weren't one of the first adopters of poker (so around 26-30 now) you simply can not move through the stakes any more. It reminds me of the importance of timing in the book Outliers, where some of the poker players's success is random chance. IE you were 18 (no job responsibilities), had a credit card (financial possibility), you were in college away from home (freedom). Even people who are currently 20-24, I feel as though they have had much limited success due to timing. Once again they were the next wave and had less of a poker pie to eat from. ANYWAY definitely ran off a tangent, but I think it takes a person with the insane amount of mental fortitude, confidence in one's own ability, and independence or the lack of need of attention/approval. Oddly enough delusions might prove useful in the latter category, people such as jungleman/wobbly/marshall come to mind.

This. I've pretty much sacrificed my poker development to be more happy. So i study just enough, and make adjustments just to stay a bit ahead of my games. Get SNE every year, and try my best to force myself to leave my house everyday and do something to keep a balance. People would be surprised how much social interaction they can get if they just leave their computer for a couple hrs a day. Whether to work out, do martial arts, sports, or just walk around.

I agree with the conclusion you come to in your last paragraph about it being each player's individual responsibility to learn how to balance poker with other aspects of life. In my mind, the only reason that a smart and successful poker player wouldn't be able to succeed outside of poker is inaction due to fear of failure and discomfort. The actual transition isn't hard but the psychological obstacles are. As someone who is self-employed and sets your own hours, there's no excuse for not attempting to dedicate time to other projects for example: learning to code, taking some money out of your BR to fund a business idea, requesting informational interviews with firms in an industry you might be interested in learning about (It's a great way to start developing business relationships and practice leveraging your poker skills socially and you can lie about having a university degree if you don't have one). The problem with most young poker players is that they found poker too young and haven't learned to step out of their comfort zones and really explore their options.

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It's very subjective thing, it's not for everyone. Depends on what do you want from poker and do you see it as an opportunity to develop yourself.. it's your life and your responsibility to use those benefits that poker gives to you.

I think a lot of these downsides need to be put in retrospect to the downsides of having a normal 9-5 job. As was once said, life is the grind, and poker is how you pass the time. Whats worse, sitting on your ass playing poker eating cheetos, or sitting on your ass in a cubicle being forced to?

I defer all commentary to handbanana21,

I think he's smarter than me, at least when it comes to stuff like this.

I also agree with Newb, every career is going to have a downside. I don't mind looking into it or whatever, but it's really the same. I mean I'm sure dudes in med school are like fuck I can't really get along with anyone who isn't in med school bla bla etc. The thing that makes poker different is most of your work-related contacts are 1000's of kilometers away.

But yes, a large part in my own personal decision to back off was that I'm going to be 27 soon and... yeah... 27...

To be fair even if I were working in some other career I'm sure I'd be wanting change after 8 years. It just so happens to be easier to change away from poker than other jobs. So nuts I think I've been posting here since I was 19 and now I'm 27 O.O

Those "downsides" probably come from a lack of fantasy, theres a shitload of other activities besides playing poker you are free to do any time of day, lets say starting from playing computer games up to acting in a porno movies or defending PHD title. Once you reveal something you like most, you wont lose any mental energy on doing those and will even gain more to play poker as your main job.

On September 15 2012 16:26 mnj wrote: I THINK twisted, sakisaki, nolan, all left for their own specific, personal reasons

Just an FYI, I haven't quit poker actually ;o. It is still my sole profession since finishing studies in 2009. I have been thinking of ways to increase my social circle as well but haven't taken action just yet. I think just doing some random activities outside your house could definitely help. I'm thinking of joining a Spanish class or something, or maybe pick up an instrument. Maybe pick up tennis or whatever.

Anyway, I think the whole social thing being made easier by what job you do is kind of a dudd. If you want to find a more social, vibrant life, there's tons of opportunities to do stuff and find friends. It's just that most poker players are introvert (me among them) so meeting new people is kind of scary so you fall back into the comfort of your 'poker lifestyle' which allows you to not care about all that stuff because it's not necessary to do. You can just sit on your arse and make money. I'm lucky to still be in touch with a looot of friends from high school and I've made a lot of poker friends in Holland and they don't live 1000 km's away because Holland is small but still I don't see those guys every day or even every week so I am trying to extend my social circle as well. I'm just not that good at moving out of my comfort zone at all.

Oh and I do take good care of my health, at least when it comes to food.

When it comes to quitting poker or not, I don't see myself quitting in the foreseeable future. I still enjoy the game somewhat. It would help if I ran better. Also I just bought an apartment so I want to have some more money anyway before I decide to do anything else. Because I know already that if I ever do transition to something else, it's gonna take time and a lot of change in character.

pretty good points by twisted, ppl who lack social interaction from poker were already introvert to start with (as many ppl who have jobs that involve sitting on the computer all day), they just dont do any effort and rarely go out of their comfort zone. If anything poker gives you an incredible freedom that enables you to whatever you want whenever you want, life dsnt get much easier than that, if you don't use that freedom to go out there and do stuff, that's your own choice but you can't really blame it on poker. Oh well I just repeated everything twisted said : )

An additional unmentioned point that is relevant to this community in particular:

I think games like HON/SC2/D3 and others are the worst for online poker players. Like if this is your job you are pretty much forced to spend ~5-8 hours a day playing and working on your poker game and then if you spend another few hours (and for many of us a lot more) playing those types of games then you end up spending most of your life in front of a computer using your brain in a very similar way.

I try to keep 0 games installed on my computer and walk away from it when I'm done w/ poker related stuff.

On September 15 2012 13:54 NewbSaibot wrote: Ask Joe what the downsides are.

this.

I'd only worry about improving my poker game and dating game. Rest is not that important

hmm, i think the biggest trouble for me is the fact that when i play poker it becomes very routine-sort of like an addiction. Going out and doing something new just seems to require such an effort, i'm just always putting it off my mind because my organizational skills are really awful and for everything but poker it just seems impossible for me to be able to string bits of thought together to come up with a plan. last year i told myself i was going to apply for some courses at university but i kept putting it off all the time, until i did apply but was too late.

i have a lot of trouble handling the freedom poker gives me, and i'm much too obsessed with trying to get X amount of money for my own good.

yeah the hardest part of poker to me is balancing my poker drive and other activities.

On September 16 2012 06:36 MiPwnYa wrote: - ppl who lack social interaction from poker were already introvert to start with - if you don't use that freedom to go out there and do stuff, that's your own choice but you can't really blame it on poker. Oh well I just repeated everything twisted said : )

^ This pretty much. Unless your grinding every minute awake, there is time for you to go out every single day. Most will blame it on fatigue or whatever, but you can make a choice to go out and meet people.

I think as people get older and hopefully a bit wiser they tend to ask better questions of themselves and have a more experienced view on what they want to be doing for the rest of their lives. It's not uncommon, especially these days for people to get a little bit of experience and then decide <insert occupation> isn't for them. I've witnessed this quite a few times over the years and it has always been interesting to hear the reasons or thinking behind the changes (or at least desired changes).

While I don't agree with the statement that if you are successful at poker you can do anything, the people who do succeed in poker tend to obviously be intelligent and will maybe take a critical look at what they are doing more so than less successful players. They may see wasted potential in themselves or a limited/constricted career path etc.

Also co-workers for the most part are terrible. I can work and get on with pretty much anyone but the percentage of people who you end up liking is so small I wouldn't worry that you are missing out on some amazing social development.

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This topic fascinates me as I always seem to be posting about it on here. A lot of good insight from everyone.

Some quick thoughts that come to mind:

One thing to consider is poker can be pretty damaging to other facets of life and development.

I wrote this in the context of that thread. To take it further:

One thing to consider is poker can be pretty beneficial to other facets of life and development.

One thing to consider is that any endeavor can be pretty damaging to other facets of life and development.

One thing to consider is that any endeavor WILL be damaging to other facets of life and development.

The damage will always be there it's just a matter if it's a positive or negative.

Smuft's post originally comes to mind and I completely agree with him (ESPECIALLY for poker players) so I will use it as an example:

Phillip spends 15-20 hours of focused energy on x video game. It completely comes down to what Phillip values in life but for besides a handful of Koreans and maybe some Europeans (no idea of the current egame market) any excessive focused time and energy spent towards video games is a complete waste.

Basically, Phillip has a lot of options with that 15-20 hours of focused energy that could lead to a better and more vigorous life. If Phillip instead starts making money, exercising, reading, w/e with that time he will be damaging his video game skills but unless those video game skills are a valuable asset who cares?

As far as poker and being sociable:

Again a lot of good insights. I am of the opinion that poker has a lot of potential to improve a social life if desired. There is a lot of potential in poker for money, autonomy, and freedom. There is a lot of potential in free time and status with money, autonomy, and freedom.

Nolan pointed out med school. Really any advanced degree. Really any employment. Everything is the same but different. Everyone is the same but different.

On a different note:

Habit, consistency, homeostasis, moderation can either be a human's greatest friend or a human's greatest foe.

The Practice of Practice is Important.

The Discipline of Discipline is Important.

Knowledge is Power.

Never been a pro, but I saw various pros posting it including Nolan (before changing his mind in a topic) saying it : being a poker pro, some feel useless to the society considering you don't give to others/ to society.
I don't want to attack poke players on this point, and to launch on other debate on this specific part of the possible downsides, just wanted to state this as this is imo the first thing that would prevent me from being a pro (actually second after not being good enough).
I remember k2o4 who explained he was working on a chariety or something like that to "give back".
About social interactions, I know friends who work on a platform 6 weeks straight and then have 6 weeks off, obviously they have to tackle the same kind of problems. This is not restricted to poker players.

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As for the second thing, I don't think it's optimal to necessarily make all life decisions from such a rational economics standpoint. If he seriously enjoys his playing then his quality of life is pretty high while investing a little time in poker on the side of school, and likely higher than if he were to invest the same time/energy resource into something that maximises his future longterm extrinsic rewards. It's important to always remember that the purpose of those extrinsic rewards themselves are to increase quality of life (the thing we should be trying to maximise) and don't have a linear relationship with utility.

Yeah, I made a post in the other thread (*this thread*) that can be overlooked at seeing everything as an economic/utility decision. I don't know. It's more like a try and set your life up in a way that discipline and practice is natural and automatic and non of this stuff is actually on your conscious unless you are consciously writing about it.

I know like 10 years ago or so cards was like the most fascinating, curious shit ever (which I do think the money/power involved is a factor in 100% of the cases regardless of what anyone says). 10 years later many card games still are pretty fascinating and curious if you think about. However, if I saw a friend or family member sitting in his dorm room alone on a Friday night getting frustrated over 25 NL I would probably take at least some action to steer them in a different direction and hope they asked me for feedback so I could feel better at being potentially more forthcoming.

Just playing some cards can be fascinating and enjoyable just as lounging in a hammock and reading a good story or having a beer and shootin the shit or anything. I guess the main point (as it always seems to be with me) is subjective, individual, honest reflection. It's not easy. Feedback from domain experts, people who know you really well, and totally bitchin' rockstars from mars is always going to help but it's never easy. Discipline isn't always easy. Practice isn't always easy. Listening isn't always easy. Being coachable isn't always easy. Avoiding rationalizing and deceiving one's self isn't always easy. At least from my observations I see almost a direct correlation with these attributes and quality of life.

I totally agree Ket. I dont think its completely fair to blame the downfalls in my personal life on poker as I always could have tried harder and made more of an effort but I cant ignore the change Ive experienced in these last few years. I would be lying if I said I didnt consider many times had it not been better if I never picked up poker in the first place.

that post was pretty fucking emo

Don't have much to add to the social aspects of poker. There have been tons of threads like this, and the fact is if you want to be the best in your field, you don't have time for making friends in other fields. I have some friends outside of poker, but 90% of the time, I am thinking about poker, so most of my friends are poker players. I don't see anything wrong with that.

Ok, time for a tangent, semi-non-related but I've been wanting to talk about the concept for a while:

Breadth of experience will be sacrificed for great depth in one limited area, which can have all sorts of suboptimal consequences on personal development and therefore ultimately, happiness and quality of life

I think specialization, which is sacrificing depth in multiple skillsets to become great at one skill (such as poker or any other job) is evolution at work. One of the BIGGEST reasons that humans have accelerated as quickly as they have is through specialization. I've seen arguments in some books that people should broaden their skillset and become proficient in a lot of different skills, and others which preach the importance of intense specialization. I agree with the latter.

I happen to think that specializing is important, and allows for the exponential growth of technology and dramatic increases in quality of life for everyone. I also think that when a lot of humans are specializing in different tasks, it makes people MORE dependent on on each other, allowing for less isolation, and forced interaction with people (a good thing imo). According to an excellent book that I suggest people read called The Rational Optimist, specialization was the reason that society began to evolve, and it was the cause of the first "trades." The concept is that it "clicked" for the first humans when they realized that they could either:

A: Learn to fish in his home town AND learn to hunt X miles away
B: Fish for 3 months and collect more than he needs and trade for deer meat.

The result is that they spent much more time fishing and thus developed specialized fishing techniques that couldn't be learned if they had to waste time hunting. This allowed him to collect MUCH more fish and trade for advanced tools to collect even more fish and trade for even more things. They also allowed for another person to become an expert hunter, learning hunting techniques he could never learn if he had to waste time fishing. This increased both of their productivity to where they were working together by offering each other a useful skill without spending the time to learn it. Multiply X millions of trades and skills in the world, and the world is one big unit that functions as a giant conglomerate of people saving millions of hours not having to learn each others' skills, but still enjoying the benefits of all of the skills by learning a skill themselves to earn something to trade (money).

Just some interesting specialization thoughts I've been thinking about lately.

Also, a tangent to the tangent, humans have this sick desire to "keep their options open." I read an interesting study recently in which people were subjected to a simple test. There was a computer program with 3 doors. When you click on a door you get 10 points, but when you press any door, the other 2 doors shrink in size. If you fail to press a door after 5 clicks, the door disappears. The catch is, with each press of a larger sized door, you get slightly more points. You get a set amount of clicks (say 25). Instead of just clicking one door and just clicking it 25 times and letting the other doors disappear, a majority of of participants would press a door 3 times, and then click the other two doors to bring them back to starting size. This phenomenon is so prevalent in society in regard to choosing a career, I thought I'd mention it.

Will Smith said it best: "There's no reason to have a Plan B because it distracts from Plan A."

Alright done blog hijacking, but sort of the things I think about from a financial standpoint when people ask me if they should focus on poker or "keep their options open" with a college education. If you have a backup plan, you have no reason to succeed.

Using the fish analogy:

What happens if where you live gets overfished and there are not enough healthy fish to reproduce?

What happens if the fishing area gets contaminated in some way and is no longer useful?

What happens if someone invents a better way to fish or a better tool to fish and fishes all your fish?

I would at least want to know how to hunt deer so I don't starve to death. I would at least want to have good relationships and trust built up with good deer hunters. I would want to know where there is an abundance of sustainable fish or potentially even better, a superlative abundance of lobster, bison, or wild edible plants.

Will Smith said it best: "There's no reason to have a Plan B because it distracts from Plan A."

That quote is baffling. Will Smith, to me, is a perfect example of someone who did the opposite of specializing and constantly adapted and progressed and out willed and pivoted wisely to get to where he got.

If you have a backup plan, you have no reason to succeed.

There are always reasons for success. I think you are underestimating humans' vanity and will for power.

I agree that putting yourself in a more sink or swim situations will improve motivation but in today's world: options and information change by the second. It is wildly sub-optimal not to be tinkering with improvement in similar or different areas with potential or at least a worst case scenario outlined.

I relate to this a lot and this is something that I've struggled with a ton.

One thing I always remind myself is that I really don't have to be accountable to anyone and if anyone tries to tell me what to do I never have to do it--something very very few people in this world can say they are able to do. I never eat shit from anyone. How many people truly live off of their own beats and don't need anyone but themselves to earn their living? Very very few.

I guess this all really just depends what's most important to you. I've always liked being by myself even before poker, it's more like poker chose me rather than I chose it. Not that I plan on being only a pro forever, but I can't imagine a year going by that I wouldn't choose to play or wouldn't want to play.

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Also, the moment I started playing poker I quit all other strategy games altogether and haven't played a game of starcraft since. I realized it was totally counter-productive and a waste of time, I can't imagine playing a strategy game just for fun, I don't have enough mental energy to focus for that much time ... I barely get in 20 hours a week.

Agree re: strategy games. They take just as many mental faculties you use to process/think about poker, yet it yields zero $, and can cause stress and tilt. Having said that I don't mind turning off my brain just to enjoy a casual non-strategy game here and there but I went from trying to be a competitive player at BW, War3 until I got into Poker, to playing SC2 only casually and never planning on buying HotS. Either that or maybe I'm just getting older

As for me, I've found playing live has definitely helped me with my socializing. Originally I only socialized because I believe it to be +EV financially but now really enjoy just being nice, talking to people, and learning from them; it helps you avoid being an emotionless poker robot (which is a horrible image to have for the live games imo). It's also a bonus because "fish" on the poker table tend to be successful businessmen, doctors, lawyers and to them, mere pro poker players are life fish.

There's been a lot of good posts in here btw, thanks guys.

With poker I realized that at the very best my life would be sth like Durrrr's or other poker "greats". And I think that life is a total disaster and doesn't satisfy me. If you look at history of the world you will know that great great things was done by people that were not smarter than me or lots of people that I know.

It all comes down to sth like what Steve Jobs asked John Sculley (CEO of Pepsi co. when he wanted to get him on board and help Apple): "Do you want to sell sugared water for the rest of your life? Or do you want to come with me and change the world?"

I am not saying that I will change the world. But I am saying that the very best case of "poker players" life is a total disaster. We all have seen it. On the other hand if I do something "productive" I can change the life of at the very very least a dozen people. To me that is more satisfying than partying everyday and waking up next day trying to take other ppl cash in a "game"

Playing poker has made me tend to think about everything else in life within the context of EV and exact decision making, and it's taken a little of the art out of things, a little of the humanity. I miss that. The other day I played a board game with friends and I just couldn't help being obsessed with making perfect +EV decisions when the real nature of our evening was socialising and the board game was just the context. I miss being a fish!

I never tried to play poker professionally for a living however I have a close friend that has been doing it for a long time. I had other opportunities when I was younger to make obscene amounts of cash doing "other things" while he focused on poker and was fairly successful. My opportunities came to an end earlier then the Black Friday hit but its a sick realization that one day you might not have 20K just sitting around to spew on a couple nights/days of drinking. Its pretty sick the amount of money some of the successful players I have met just throw away. On the other side making 10K plus a month and living like a total nit probably isn't good for you either. Everything is relative you make 20K a month playing poker and then spend 5K going out for a couple nights it seems like nothing but then when you look back over a couple years and realize that you spent over 100K a year in drinking alone. And then think hey I could of bought a house with that money instead I drank a bottle of grey goose in one shot it messes with your head. I think being successful at poker allows people that would otherwise be fairly normal productive members of society the chance to turn into the sickest drinking degenerates.

I think if anyone, who is playing poker at top level, would have spent same time and focus on a professional occupation he would have been equally successful. But in a professional occupation its not only yourself that benefits. You got all the clients, co-workers and other stakeholders would massively benefit from your work. While in poker you are just a "method of transfer of money" to the society.

(If you can't tell I am actually for massively taxing poker and other stuff like High frequency Trading and such.)

On September 17 2012 14:21 FarmMylife wrote: I never tried to play poker professionally for a living however I have a close friend that has been doing it for a long time. I had other opportunities when I was younger to make obscene amounts of cash doing "other things" while he focused on poker and was fairly successful. My opportunities came to an end earlier then the Black Friday hit but its a sick realization that one day you might not have 20K just sitting around to spew on a couple nights/days of drinking. Its pretty sick the amount of money some of the successful players I have met just throw away. On the other side making 10K plus a month and living like a total nit probably isn't good for you either. Everything is relative you make 20K a month playing poker and then spend 5K going out for a couple nights it seems like nothing but then when you look back over a couple years and realize that you spent over 100K a year in drinking alone. And then think hey I could of bought a house with that money instead I drank a bottle of grey goose in one shot it messes with your head. I think being successful at poker allows people that would otherwise be fairly normal productive members of society the chance to turn into the sickest drinking degenerates.

sick drinking degen?, hey man you just described my life lol, without poker i wouldn't have been able to bang all the hookers, and engage in all of the illicit drugs that i've been able to, some may call it a downside, but hey to each his own

^LOL the downside isn't so much the drinking, hookers and drugs it is more so the money spent think about all of the real things you could have done with that money

If you find yourself thinking about this stuff way too often then it's definitely a good time to start making plans for your future, an exit strategy of sorts.
If you're just into making money and don't give a fuck then poker is fine, still you have to be completely honest if indeed you don't care - that part is really hard though.

Why are people in the poker world constantly proud of fucking hookers?

The culture in poker from which this derives is another huge downside for me. I just find so many people in poker utterly repugnant.

On September 18 2012 04:19 Oly wrote: Why are people in the poker world constantly proud of fucking hookers? The culture in poker from which this derives is another huge downside for me. I just find so many people in poker utterly repugnant.

i could be wrong but i think a decent amount of those comments are in jest

On September 18 2012 04:19 Oly wrote: Why are people in the poker world constantly proud of fucking hookers? The culture in poker from which this derives is another huge downside for me. I just find so many people in poker utterly repugnant.

I don't know what people you've met but the poker players in my circle of friends are nothing like what you describe. Off the top of my head I have maybe 7-9 good friends who play poker and things most have in common include decent amt of life motivation, strong interest and effort invested in personal development + health, and diverse hobbies/interests outside of poker. So from my perspective what you said seems like a gross and unfair generalisation, and also unfair to blame the "poker culture" on producing low quality people. You can find the sort of people you're referring to anywhere outside of pro poker players as well. Also you have the freedom to choose your own circles and make your own "culture of a poker player", nobody is making you be associated with those people or their lifestyles

On September 16 2012 07:53 Smuft wrote: An additional unmentioned point that is relevant to this community in particular: I think games like HON/SC2/D3 and others are the worst for online poker players. Like if this is your job you are pretty much forced to spend ~5-8 hours a day playing and working on your poker game and then if you spend another few hours (and for many of us a lot more) playing those types of games then you end up spending most of your life in front of a computer using your brain in a very similar way. I try to keep 0 games installed on my computer and walk away from it when I'm done w/ poker related stuff.

couldn't agree more and hope some people here can take heed. makes me a bit sad to see highly active threads about computer gaming on here, there are much more rewarding and engaging things we could be doing!

On September 16 2012 09:27 RiKD wrote: This topic fascinates me as I always seem to be posting about it on here. A lot of good insight from everyone. Some quick thoughts that come to mind: Show nested quote + One thing to consider is poker can be pretty damaging to other facets of life and development. I wrote this in the context of that thread. To take it further: One thing to consider is poker can be pretty beneficial to other facets of life and development. One thing to consider is that any endeavor can be pretty damaging to other facets of life and development. One thing to consider is that any endeavor WILL be damaging to other facets of life and development. The damage will always be there it's just a matter if it's a positive or negative. Smuft's post originally comes to mind and I completely agree with him (ESPECIALLY for poker players) so I will use it as an example: Phillip spends 15-20 hours of focused energy on x video game. It completely comes down to what Phillip values in life but for besides a handful of Koreans and maybe some Europeans (no idea of the current egame market) any excessive focused time and energy spent towards video games is a complete waste. Basically, Phillip has a lot of options with that 15-20 hours of focused energy that could lead to a better and more vigorous life. If Phillip instead starts making money, exercising, reading, w/e with that time he will be damaging his video game skills but unless those video game skills are a valuable asset who cares? As far as poker and being sociable: Again a lot of good insights. I am of the opinion that poker has a lot of potential to improve a social life if desired. There is a lot of potential in poker for money, autonomy, and freedom. There is a lot of potential in free time and status with money, autonomy, and freedom. Nolan pointed out med school. Really any advanced degree. Really any employment. Everything is the same but different. Everyone is the same but different. On a different note: Habit, consistency, homeostasis, moderation can either be a human's greatest friend or a human's greatest foe. The Practice of Practice is Important. The Discipline of Discipline is Important. Knowledge is Power.

have to QFT this. pls post more!

On September 15 2012 16:21 MiPwnYa wrote: Show nested quote + On September 15 2012 14:55 sniderstyle wrote: If you guys can be a pro poker player, one of the toughest things in the world, you can do anything. That's not true, having the skillset to be a poker player dsnt really able you to do "anything", and being a poker player certainly isnt one of the toughest things in the world, it just requires a few particular skills that are quite rare in the population. That's just my opinion obv

+2.. for me it's been really easy to be a pro poker player but id be drawing dead at being a pro artist or musician

On September 15 2012 19:40 Spicy wrote: I agree with the conclusion you come to in your last paragraph about it being each player's individual responsibility to learn how to balance poker with other aspects of life. In my mind, the only reason that a smart and successful poker player wouldn't be able to succeed outside of poker is inaction due to fear of failure and discomfort. The actual transition isn't hard but the psychological obstacles are. As someone who is self-employed and sets your own hours, there's no excuse for not attempting to dedicate time to other projects for example: learning to code, taking some money out of your BR to fund a business idea, requesting informational interviews with firms in an industry you might be interested in learning about (It's a great way to start developing business relationships and practice leveraging your poker skills socially and you can lie about having a university degree if you don't have one). The problem with most young poker players is that they found poker too young and haven't learned to step out of their comfort zones and really explore their options.

On September 15 2012 20:57 morph1 wrote: just deleted bunch of paragraphs that I wrote on ket's blog post everything is actualy being said It's very subjective thing, it's not for everyone. Depends on what do you want from poker and do you see it as an opportunity to develop yourself.. it's your life and your responsibility to use those benefits that poker gives to you.

On September 16 2012 06:14 Twisted wrote: Show nested quote + On September 15 2012 16:26 mnj wrote: I THINK twisted, sakisaki, nolan, all left for their own specific, personal reasons Just an FYI, I haven't quit poker actually ;o. It is still my sole profession since finishing studies in 2009. I have been thinking of ways to increase my social circle as well but haven't taken action just yet. I think just doing some random activities outside your house could definitely help. I'm thinking of joining a Spanish class or something, or maybe pick up an instrument. Maybe pick up tennis or whatever. Anyway, I think the whole social thing being made easier by what job you do is kind of a dudd. If you want to find a more social, vibrant life, there's tons of opportunities to do stuff and find friends. It's just that most poker players are introvert (me among them) so meeting new people is kind of scary so you fall back into the comfort of your 'poker lifestyle' which allows you to not care about all that stuff because it's not necessary to do. You can just sit on your arse and make money. I'm lucky to still be in touch with a looot of friends from high school and I've made a lot of poker friends in Holland and they don't live 1000 km's away because Holland is small but still I don't see those guys every day or even every week so I am trying to extend my social circle as well. I'm just not that good at moving out of my comfort zone at all. Oh and I do take good care of my health, at least when it comes to food. When it comes to quitting poker or not, I don't see myself quitting in the foreseeable future. I still enjoy the game somewhat. It would help if I ran better. Also I just bought an apartment so I want to have some more money anyway before I decide to do anything else. Because I know already that if I ever do transition to something else, it's gonna take time and a lot of change in character.

On September 16 2012 06:36 MiPwnYa wrote: pretty good points by twisted, ppl who lack social interaction from poker were already introvert to start with (as many ppl who have jobs that involve sitting on the computer all day), they just dont do any effort and rarely go out of their comfort zone. If anything poker gives you an incredible freedom that enables you to whatever you want whenever you want, life dsnt get much easier than that, if you don't use that freedom to go out there and do stuff, that's your own choice but you can't really blame it on poker. Oh well I just repeated everything twisted said : )

On September 16 2012 14:16 EvilSky wrote: I totally agree Ket. I dont think its completely fair to blame the downfalls in my personal life on poker as I always could have tried harder and made more of an effort but I cant ignore the change Ive experienced in these last few years. I would be lying if I said I didnt consider many times had it not been better if I never picked up poker in the first place.

Really happy to read posts like this and I hope this message is what we can all take away from this discussion as it's a very positive one: Playing poker (successfully) for a living itself isn't to blame for the potential downsides of the lifestyle that you might experience in the process, rather it's up to you to use your own imagination and action to fully use the resources afforded to you through playing (TIME and money) and create your own fully fulfilled and happy vigorous lifestyle

On September 16 2012 16:17 thewh00sel wrote: Don't have much to add to the social aspects of poker. There have been tons of threads like this, and the fact is if you want to be the best in your field, you don't have time for making friends in other fields. I have some friends outside of poker, but 90% of the time, I am thinking about poker, so most of my friends are poker players. I don't see anything wrong with that. Ok, time for a tangent, semi-non-related but I've been wanting to talk about the concept for a while: Show nested quote + Breadth of experience will be sacrificed for great depth in one limited area, which can have all sorts of suboptimal consequences on personal development and therefore ultimately, happiness and quality of life I think specialization, which is sacrificing depth in multiple skillsets to become great at one skill (such as poker or any other job) is evolution at work. One of the BIGGEST reasons that humans have accelerated as quickly as they have is through specialization. I've seen arguments in some books that people should broaden their skillset and become proficient in a lot of different skills, and others which preach the importance of intense specialization. I agree with the latter. I happen to think that specializing is important, and allows for the exponential growth of technology and dramatic increases in quality of life for everyone. I also think that when a lot of humans are specializing in different tasks, it makes people MORE dependent on on each other, allowing for less isolation, and forced interaction with people (a good thing imo). According to an excellent book that I suggest people read called The Rational Optimist, specialization was the reason that society began to evolve, and it was the cause of the first "trades." The concept is that it "clicked" for the first humans when they realized that they could either: A: Learn to fish in his home town AND learn to hunt X miles away B: Fish for 3 months and collect more than he needs and trade for deer meat. The result is that they spent much more time fishing and thus developed specialized fishing techniques that couldn't be learned if they had to waste time hunting. This allowed him to collect MUCH more fish and trade for advanced tools to collect even more fish and trade for even more things. They also allowed for another person to become an expert hunter, learning hunting techniques he could never learn if he had to waste time fishing. This increased both of their productivity to where they were working together by offering each other a useful skill without spending the time to learn it. Multiply X millions of trades and skills in the world, and the world is one big unit that functions as a giant conglomerate of people saving millions of hours not having to learn each others' skills, but still enjoying the benefits of all of the skills by learning a skill themselves to earn something to trade (money). Just some interesting specialization thoughts I've been thinking about lately. Also, a tangent to the tangent, humans have this sick desire to "keep their options open." I read an interesting study recently in which people were subjected to a simple test. There was a computer program with 3 doors. When you click on a door you get 10 points, but when you press any door, the other 2 doors shrink in size. If you fail to press a door after 5 clicks, the door disappears. The catch is, with each press of a larger sized door, you get slightly more points. You get a set amount of clicks (say 25). Instead of just clicking one door and just clicking it 25 times and letting the other doors disappear, a majority of of participants would press a door 3 times, and then click the other two doors to bring them back to starting size. This phenomenon is so prevalent in society in regard to choosing a career, I thought I'd mention it. Will Smith said it best: "There's no reason to have a Plan B because it distracts from Plan A." Alright done blog hijacking, but sort of the things I think about from a financial standpoint when people ask me if they should focus on poker or "keep their options open" with a college education. If you have a backup plan, you have no reason to succeed.

Have to disagree strongly with this. To each their own but you make an assumption that happiness == maximum economic prosperity. I think I'd be much happier not being a specialist that's trying to get to the top in 1 thing and investing 100% of mental energy in that thing, but someone with a few interests and a thirst to always learn new stuff and try doing new stuff. For me, as long as I can make enough off poker and manage my expectations and wants, and have time and energy left over to invest in different things that are fulfilling, I'm crushing

playing poker full time is a job like any other. Only that this is a self employed job with no real transferable skills. Which keeps a lot of people in the poker because they have no where else to go

hang on, didnt u just make a blogpost saying u found playing poker taught u valuable lessons you can use in life?

only jostling, i know what u mean. One thing im curious about though, do you not feel similar is true for trading too? or many (arguably most) other career paths?