OP: how old are you ? Do you live in your parent's house ? Two crucial questions if you are under 18 and still studying then you'll have to endure this a couple of years. If not, then it's time to set things straight with your dad: If you're a mature and grown adult, you should signify verbally what you think of his behavior, first when you help him or your family he must understands there are no obligations for you to do anything and that he should be grateful you give him a hand. Say it calmly and describe what you think, argue with him as he will probably try to win the argument anyway. End it by summin up your thoughts and remind him you are adult and he can't dictate what you should do.
Concerning your father and your mother, talk with her about the issue and tell her that she should also confront him (do the meals himself if he thinks it's too salted etc ..), if she starts finding excuses, agree and withdraw from the situation, ignore situations in which they're fighting passive/agressively (leave dinner, avoid eating with them). Overall you have to hold them far from you until they understand they have to change, set the conditions and keep your word. |