here's a q for u

girlfriend: immediately.

calling them out for what exactly?

How much they matter to me. If it's someone that doesn't matter in your life, who cares.

How important the issue is. If it's petty, who cares.

Will it get through them? If the person is absolutely stupid. Is it worth the effort. Let the guy writhe in his own stupidity, unless he's really harming you. Then challenge it.

about tree fiddy... for real though, depends a lot on the relationship, how I view it, and how I think the person will react to being called out. Also depends what I'm calling them out for.

On March 16 2013 00:35 SeanBam wrote: girlfriend: immediately.

what's the longest u have ever had a gf?

On March 16 2013 00:39 bigredhoss wrote: calling them out for what exactly?

u tell me.. I dont know u or where u come from.. (see how I called u out?) Jk
Kinda..

Edit for too many forty creeks and cokes

On March 16 2013 00:41 Arirang wrote: How much they matter to me. If it's someone that doesn't matter in your life, who cares. How important the issue is. If it's petty, who cares. Will it get through them? If the person is absolutely stupid. Is it worth the effort. Let the guy writhe in his own stupidity, unless he's really harming you. Then challenge it.

nice answer.. no surprise u are Canadian.. so for u I would want to know precisely where u draw the line with someone u call ur friend.. ? From the most basic friend on.. (I.e. someone u have worked with for 3 months at least)

On March 16 2013 00:48 ugly wrote: Show nested quote + On March 16 2013 00:35 SeanBam wrote: girlfriend: immediately. what's the longest u have ever had a gf?

Going on 2 years with the current one. I was giving you an answer. If it's bothering you inside, I say address it and get it in the air. I don't think relationships are good when everything must be kept inside. If it makes you angry or upset address it. If it's something like you left the stove on before you left, obviously keep it in, let her believe she's not a dumbass.

On March 16 2013 00:52 ugly wrote: Show nested quote + On March 16 2013 00:41 Arirang wrote: How much they matter to me. If it's someone that doesn't matter in your life, who cares. How important the issue is. If it's petty, who cares. Will it get through them? If the person is absolutely stupid. Is it worth the effort. Let the guy writhe in his own stupidity, unless he's really harming you. Then challenge it. nice answer.. no surprise u are Canadian.. so for u I would want to know precisely where u draw the line with someone u call ur friend.. ? From the most basic friend on.. (I.e. someone u have worked with for 3 months at least)

If I cannot trust the person, he's not a friend. I had a lot of school colleagues, and they were acquaintances, not friends. We were there for each other's benefits. Friends are something more I think. Friends care. And if the person is a friend, and what he's doing seems wrong. I'd try to share my feelings on the matter and get his opinion. Even if he may not change, I'd like for him to hear my opinion at this moment, and let the dude see how I feel about the situation. Because that's what friends do.

On March 16 2013 01:00 SeanBam wrote: Show nested quote + On March 16 2013 00:48 ugly wrote:   On March 16 2013 00:35 SeanBam wrote: girlfriend: immediately. what's the longest u have ever had a gf? Going on 2 years with the current one. I was giving you an answer. If it's bothering you inside, I say address it and get it in the air. I don't think relationships are good when everything must be kept inside. If it makes you angry or upset address it. If it's something like you left the stove on before you left, obviously keep it in, let her believe she's not a dumbass.

does she do the same?

Look man, if you care about this person and the person is a friend to you. You stab them in the face, alright? No matter how bad the outcome will be, it would be the right choice.

On March 16 2013 01:05 Arirang wrote: Show nested quote + On March 16 2013 00:52 ugly wrote:   On March 16 2013 00:41 Arirang wrote: How much they matter to me. If it's someone that doesn't matter in your life, who cares. How important the issue is. If it's petty, who cares. Will it get through them? If the person is absolutely stupid. Is it worth the effort. Let the guy writhe in his own stupidity, unless he's really harming you. Then challenge it. nice answer.. no surprise u are Canadian.. so for u I would want to know precisely where u draw the line with someone u call ur friend.. ? From the most basic friend on.. (I.e. someone u have worked with for 3 months at least) If I cannot trust the person, he's not a friend. I had a lot of school colleagues, and they were acquaintances, not friends. We were there for each other's benefits. Friends are something more I think. Friends care. And if the person is a friend, and what he's doing seems wrong. I'd try to share my feelings on the matter and get his opinion. Even if he may not change, I'd like for him to hear my opinion at this moment, and let the dude see how I feel about the situation. Because that's what friends do.

u trust all ur friends? To what degree?

On March 16 2013 01:17 Arirang wrote: Look man, if you care about this person and the person is a friend to you. You stab them in the face, alright? No matter how bad the outcome will be, it would be the right choice.

unfortunately (i think) this is totally hypothetical

Well, human relationship isn't simple and it's certainly not absolute. I don't have a formula. But I try very best not shame myself in the future when I remember this moment. I've wronged some people in the past, and when that memory creeps up, it haunts me pretty bad... So, I try to do what's right, even if the outcome can be very ugly. That sounds a bit like masturbation, but often times evading shit can cause greater grief. So, it's so far been the right approach.

If it has been so ugly then what would make u say it has been the right approach? I love ur first sentence btw

And btw.. for me personally. . masturbation has never been ugly for me.. even the times I got caught (or even almost for that matter lol)

On March 16 2013 00:49 ugly wrote: Show nested quote + On March 16 2013 00:39 bigredhoss wrote: calling them out for what exactly? u tell me.. I dont know u or where u come from.. (see how I called u out?) Jk Kinda.. Edit for too many forty creeks and cokes

It's a hypothetical. .

your need to be less vague with your hypothetical to get meaningful answers imo

Uh.. I have tried to get pretty precise with my hypothetical but it depends on what you give me.. And you have not given me much so ok

pop a capz in the niggaz imo

Whatever Ariang says.

what the fuck did I just read

Assertive is the word you are looking for OP.

http://www.counselingcenter.illinois.edu/?page_id=187

end this. Looking more and more like a troll.

Personally I SURROUND myself with people who's opinions I value and will call me out. That being said, I take it as my duty to do the same. If it is someone that is willing to grow more mature, spiritually, emotionally, and personally why would they ever be more than thankful for you blindspotting for them?

My policy is to call people out immediately if they are telling or doing something to or with me (or an innocent) that I think is harmful to them, me, or another in a direct way. But no nagging...

I don't call people out for petty things pretty much ever -- by policy -- but sometimes my exercise of patience fails when I see a friend with excessively bad posture or what not.


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Then I read this right above my post

On March 17 2013 05:06 Enigma wrote: Personally I SURROUND myself with people who's opinions I value and will call me out. That being said, I take it as my duty to do the same. If it is someone that is willing to grow more mature, spiritually, emotionally, and personally why would they ever be more than thankful for you blindspotting for them?

Kool I am actually glad to see the last two posts

On March 16 2013 12:28 Bullshit wrote: what the fuck did I just read

^

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