I just joined a gym now what? - Page 6

So, today, I was minding my own business working up to a max set of trap bar deadlifts. There was this women working out in the same area. Doing like ab stuff and yoga stuff. The majority of her breasts were on display and they were fantastic. One has to think she knew what she was doing when getting dressed for the gym today but I digress. So, obviously I had taken notice. Pretty discretely I must say but anyways I was more focused on getting after it on the trap bar deadlift. I was on a break, she sashays up and asks me, "Were you a personal trainer here before?" I respond, "no." She says, "ok" and then sashays away. The End.

She was probably 35-40, very attractive. What do I do if I see her again?

shake her hand

lilz, I was hoping for the lulz

This was too good of an opportunity to not bring back the old Floofy tricks :D

The ironic thing is we laugh but Floofy's probably getting more pussy than most of us.

If I see her again I'll probably just say hi and ignore her and focus on training or just ignore her completely while maybe discreetly being drawn to her breasts if she is wearing that kind of top. She had a nice shape that I was attracted to it would be hard to ignore the essence completely. I could walk up to her and ask her if she used to be a personal trainer there. The fact that I am posting all of this on an internet message board likely means that I am beta and will not have sex with her. Oh well.

I shouldn't say most of us. All I can really say is Floofy is probably getting more pussy than me. With all of his online dating dates and girlfriends. Good for him.

Why do I go to the gym anyways? Well, it is something to do. It makes me feel good. Maybe if I get my upper body and arms a little bit broader and bigger and my waist a little bit slimmer it will attract a mate. That's like all we can control a little bit and I am not even so sure it matters all that much. It's not like we can go to the gym for facial structure, height, penis size. Do I want to get into that rat race of money and status? Frankly, no I don't. Not at all. I've been there and I don't want to go back.

Man, I don't even know where I am going with this post. I think part of it is coming to the realization that the gym is really just for me. It's mostly vanity. I can pump up my shoulders and my arms a little bit and a women can find that sexy. I can lose some of the gut and be more attractive to the opposite sex. I've had a lot of women tell me my tattoos are sexy basically completely untrained. The most sex I ever got was when I was the richest in my life. I think it is mostly about finding my sphere, my niche. I think I was excited at the prospect of hot 30-40 yr olds being attracted to me physically. It seems like it is a clearer path. I am most attracted to the 18-22 yr olds on r/gonewild but in reality that is way too young for me. I work with a bunch of these types and they just don't really have any life experience or substance. I wise 24 yr old is maybe my lower limit and I don't know what my upper limit is. I need to get out there and live a little bit and experiment. There have got to be so many women out there who find themselves lonely and/or horny. But, it is not just about sex. Dates can be a lot of fun. Maybe I am not even looking for a girlfriend right now. Just play it by ear.

Deadlift Assistance

Mortenson8, What are good ab exercises?

How are rollouts and reverse crunches? Those don't really put the back in bad positions. I should just be doing front squats.

What are good ab exercises for the deadlift and the front squat?

I know the best answer is to deadlift and front squat but what is some accessory work?

My abs are not strong enough to do rollouts and reverse crunches were not all that challenging.

There's shitton of abs exercise that work

I used to do - mainly except you really gotta do it properly otherwise you get zero effect.
also dont do it with retarded amount of weights, just check what is your optimal weight over which you have total contro incl your posture and during the exercise itself.


Also do the one where you lift your feet in 90 degrees

And if standardard reverse crunches don't work for you, jsut do them on a decline bench where your head is up, or do standard exercises on a decline bench where your head is down with some weight e.g. doing a push up with 10kg disc behind ur head on a decline bench where your head is at the bottom

Plus do normal stagnant plank - thats a MUST


And again, and I cant stress this enough - don't do the praying exercise with too much weight, I've had periods of weeks whereI had to stop training cause I felt pressure on my waist because of doing this shit with 50-60kg for retarded reasons. I really don't see how you'd go over 25 to 30kg on that ever without them being efficient, unless you're an animal

Are you still doing yoga? I am like you, drug addict, burnt out on status chase, brain spins all the time. The philosophy has helped me too. I still don't believe in God though, or a benevolently higher power. But at the same time I don't trust my intellectual brain because it just sits there telling me to smoke weed or that everyone hates me.

On April 10 2018 22:24 Rinny wrote: Are you still doing yoga? I am like you, drug addict, burnt out on status chase, brain spins all the time. The philosophy has helped me too. I still don't believe in God though, or a benevolently higher power. But at the same time I don't trust my intellectual brain because it just sits there telling me to smoke weed or that everyone hates me.

I am currently not doing any yoga. I lift weights and I go to meetings I like or just basically hang out. Fuck god. We can define things this way or that but there is no benevolent "Our Father" up in the sky. Fuck the lord's prayer. Fuck catholicism.

Not trusting your brain is a fair point. You need some sort of psychic change man. Whether that comes from changing things in your life to have some semblance of your "good" life or doing 12 steps or finding buddhism or doing shrooms. I don't know. Those are the sorts of things that work for me and have worked for other people.

dohhhhhh....

I just RSVP'd to a wedding and tried on my suit pants and they barely fit. They have been barely fitting for a while and it's nice an extra 10 lbs. I have gained in the last few months has not put me over the top but I have 64 days to get trimmer. I have really been enjoying the gaining muscle thing though. I don't want to stop doing that but if I am a true sculptor there is body fat that has to go. I think I should maybe not change that much except lower calories on my diet and what I am eating and also move more but the calories and what I am eating being the most important. I can't outrun my mouth.

Any fat burning aficionados on here that have some tips and tricks to burn fat without losing muscle?

As best as I can tell:

- Do HIIT after training sessions. Don't expect to gain a lot or any muscle at all just go for the maintenance. The key is getting the metabolism up through strength training (maintaining the mass) and then burning the calories and fat through HIIT which will keep the metabolism up for a reported 36 hours after the session.

- You can't outrun your mouth. I have been eating oatmeal with a handful of walnuts for breakfast, salads for lunch, and something reasonable for dinner. It is tough to just eat salads for every meal. I can if there is some interest or intrigue there but I am not gonna have a house salad for every meal. I am cutting out all sugar added crap like sodas, sweat tea, candy. I still fuck up and eat dark chocolate or ice cream but ideally I cut that out.

- Go for a lot of walks. Move around more. I am trying to take as many walks as I can.

That's basically it. I am considering taking some diet pills but I'll just put the weight back on after I go off of them. I am looking for a smooth 2 month burn.

I've been working out since ~January (unrelated to New Year's Resolutions). It's my first time back at a workout routine in a long, long time.

thoughts:

1. I tore my meniscus maybe around 2012 or something like that messing around at the driving range(I don't really golf). The knee itself is pretty much fine but I can't really do stuff like play basketball anymore...which is kind of crazy to me. I went to an orthopedic surgeon and he told me pretty much best option is to not treat it, which seems to be the standard GTO advice. Being a NBA fan tho, its crazy to me that guys can play in the NBA with something like that. Russell Westbrook is the prime example. He pretty much has insane usage every single year and has been killing it like his knee is fine. I just don't get it. Probably some combination of 1. job makes it necessary 2. best doctors 3. maybe it was a minor tear 4. genetics (kinda think this is bs).

Anyway because of this I don't really try to lift super heavy with my lower body lifts (squat, leg press, deadlift). I used to have a pretty good squat when I was younger, but yeah not really trying to powerlift(which is think is kinda of stupid if you want me to be honest with ya'll). I also have limited options for cardio, so I try to get a good heart rate pump in during my workouts as my cardio or whatever. It's been working out ok I think.

2. I have gained around 15 lbs or so at least, and I certainly don't have a gut. For me that is a good deal of weight.

3. Lately I'm not sure if I'm not making any gains, at least in terms of weight. Being a skinny dude pretty much forever when I was younger, gaining weight was pretty much my barometer for results at the gym. At some point though, I feel like you are going to lose some of the bodyfat % that you've gained along with your muscle and "cut" or whatever. I've never really understood cutting/never done it before so I'm not sure about alot of shit. I mean I've been consistent with the gym while switching to a more keto type of diet. I "think" my physique has been getting leaner, more muscular looking while retaining around the same weight, which is good. But I can't be sure. All I can do really is stick with it. With me being unsure if I'm progressing or not it's put a bit of anxiety on, which is part of the reason I'm posting here to help me keep motivated.

4. Some other thoughts - working out is alot easier when you aren't a broke ~20yo or something and can actually afford proper food.
- pretty busy so workout ~2 times a week and probably give up some EV on diet
-been glad I've learned a bit on how to work out my core/lower back area(besides deadlift). used to neglect this
-also if you are some powerlifter hardcore dude and want to say im doing it wrong or whatver not really interested in arguing with anyone u, lol.

gyms are expensive and boring to me, i just do calisthenics's between sims and futsal 3x a week. I'll add in fencing or tae kwon do at some point. Soon I will be able to destroy anything with one punch

i don't think the gym itself is too expensive. i think the diet can get pricey tho. but yeah its not very cerebral and you don't really get to meet many people while doing it. i still find it at least decently enjoyable though.

if i could, i'd play a couple of sports but really i can't. if i recall correctly, if i try to play table tennis with a decent work rate, my knee starts to hurt.

Question, you guys have been helpful before:


I read studies before suggesting that 0.3g protein/ per pound is optimal, contrary to old knowledge where people thought 1-2g/pound was necessary. So if I'm attempting to eat 3000-3500 (i'm 6'3) calories a day should I not bother with protein powder/shakes? I will get my protein regardless because of all the calories I'm consuming.


It's been very challenging to gain weight. I'm only 172 pounds and been working out over a year regularly. Clearly not making my calorie goals. Goal is to make 180 - 185, but that requires me stuffing my face constantly.


Also, best lower back exercises? probably my weakest area.

Where are you getting 0.3g protein/lb figure from? That sounds way low, it's true that 1-2g/lb isn't necessary but honestly that seems closer to correct than 0.3g. I'm not a nutrition expert but most people seem to recommend 0.8g/lb. these days. ex: https://bayesianbodybuilding.com/the-...imal-protein-intake-for-bodybuilders/ (ironically the premise of that article is also saying that 1g/lb is unnecessary).

In general try and get your protein from regular food. If you find that's too inconvenient or whatever it's fine to supplement with protein shakes.

Deadlift is the nuts for lower back. What has your workout routine been over the past year?

I've always heard .8g-1.2g is ideal. .3 is way to low.