Looks or Game Part II

I was curious so I looked up books on dating and getting a girlfriend and they all looked like trash.

I'm not even obese anymore which is good. I carry some emotional baggage but I think I need to just dive in somehow although I will procrastinate in anyway possible.

I realize Looks or Game was kind of at the expense of Floofy. He sort of ended up with a good match? I don't really know.

Some may say why are you asking a dead website of nerds how to find the Other / a match?

Well, if nerds on a dead website can figure out how to find someone that's whose suggestions I probably need.

what is a looks or game thread? I kinda missed that but has been mentioned plenthy of times. Can someone elaborate please

Just type Looks or game into search and click search. Enjoy.

On November 11 2022 17:15 dnagardi wrote: what is a looks or game thread? I kinda missed that but has been mentioned plenthy of times. Can someone elaborate please

it is in reference to the timeless debate or passive vs. active entertainment
"looks" is like watching TV or youtube videos, reading, kind of mindless sitting there absorbing, whereas "game" is like poker when you are an active participant trying to overcome and win something

lot of people spend all their energy at their jobs and so on so they prefer the opposite in their leisure time, and other people need that challenge. though i'd argue most modern video games fit more into the mindless category

game, definitely game. I'm a 7 but easily pull 8's and occasionally a 9 because I can make women laugh. Having trawled through the boyfriend history of my ex's and seeing the attractive men they date, it always came down to money. "Oh him? He's a CEO..... this guy owned his own business.... Chad was a VP of..." all big time 6 figure earners with houses and nice cars, meanwhile they're with my broke ass earning barely 60k/year driving a Kia in a 1 bedroom apartment. Why? Because I can hold a conversation for 12 hours & my fuckgame is above average.

I apologize for this thread. I re-read the Looks or Game thread last night and there is no recreating that. Classic. Remarkable. Holy shit!

On November 12 2022 17:43 NewbSaibot wrote: game, definitely game. I'm a 7 but easily pull 8's and occasionally a 9 because I can make women laugh. Having trawled through the boyfriend history of my ex's and seeing the attractive men they date, it always came down to money. "Oh him? He's a CEO..... this guy owned his own business.... Chad was a VP of..." all big time 6 figure earners with houses and nice cars, meanwhile they're with my broke ass earning barely 60k/year driving a Kia in a 1 bedroom apartment. Why? Because I can hold a conversation for 12 hours & my fuckgame is above average.

$60k/year in a 1 bedroom apartment is plenty depending on the city. I made $70k in a 1 bedroom near but too far from Chicago and the potential was crazy. But, my mindset was a bit fucked and my drinking was a problem. Maybe we are similar because making women laugh and having conversation are some of my strengths too. I don't know about my fuck game anymore. I feel women appreciate men being sexy, going down on them, and not jackhammering them to death was good enough. I think a lot of guys have gotten wiser or maybe not, I don't know. Now, I make $30k/year and live with my parents. The difference is massive except somehow the stress at the job is still immense. It's a pretty shitty position in life. I figure I gotta go the sex worker route or just pick up a massive World of Warcraft habit or something.

Most people are desperately trying to stay ahead of their burnrate. Corporations are. Executives are. Middle Management are. We all are. It's exhausting. That is why when something comes around that could improve human life in the future it's a sigh of relief as well as stimulating.

I just came across this the other day. I thought it was great:

Quadratic Payments: A Primer

Modern-day psychologists understand happiness way better than Spinoza. At least Spinoza had big balls I guess.

I got the quote from a popular psychology book on attachment theory

well, wherever you got it, it's a bullshit quote.

In the words of RainKhan: "Uhhhh OK!"

Why is it bullshit?

Is there any continental philosophers you don't have a distaste for? Certainly some non-math thought has been good over 3,000 years?

Maybe the OG Socrates was right in that know one (continental philosophers especially) knows anything?

I don't really want to write a blog that entails me saying "I'm hungry" and then detailing how I went to the fridge and got some food but that seems to be how it goes.

One thing I noticed is that I thought getting my car fixed would be a relief yet then all the other things I should be doing crowd into that space. I am beginning to be convinced that having money is a subtractive benefit and not an additive thing. I look around the room. There are a lot of material misses that are collecting dust. Maybe it was worth it for a brief period of transcendence maybe it isn't. I never even figured out how to hook up my mic to my computer. Subtractive meaning there is a lot of stuff I have to worry about because of a lack of money. I think the key to money is to put it towards additive experience and subtractive worry. After paying the car bill I feel more insecure. Human beings are fragile always even though we don't like to admit it but I feel more fragile. I mean I bet some of these billionaires funding SENS and whatever don't feel as fragile. They have the same meat vessels though. Maybe not for forever. Well, apparently my bone density is decreasing which I guess is a natural thing but it is outside the normal bounds and they want me to get a bone density scan but I don't have the money. If I had money I go get the scan from the shiny new machine and not even think twice about it probably. I don't even know what to do. I can't control bone loss besides going HAM in the gym maybe and my teeth are bone and I have been avoiding going to the dentist because they want to charge me $50 for missing an appointment when I was in the ER about to be moved to the psych. ward and I have sleep apnea and they want me to get a cpap machine. Well, those things are expensive too and I've been losing weight which supposedly helps that and my liver where they want to get an ultrasound or something even fancier and it's just like my god this is too much I can't even get that many days off work and it's one giant interconnected shitstorm. Getting older is terrible. So, this is why I feel incredibly fragile and full of worry all the time and I go to work which is also terrible and just try and survive and I come back home tired, worn out, lacking energy, lacking focus, lacking will power and I get some stuff done sometimes but then others it's just procrastination like exactly what writing these absurd blogs are about. I even signed up for a consultation at effective altruism site because even if I don't believe in EFFECTIVE ALTRUISM TM maybe just maybe there could be some idea(s) in there that could get me out of this hell scape.

I'm tired but I have to stay up because I work a later shift tomorrow. I don't feel like practicing coding or reading a 30 page paper about Quadratic Funding. Those are somewhat challenging activities and I just don't have the god damn willpower, energy, focus at this point. Fuck it. I guess I'll read and go to sleep.

I find coding really interesting but also quite mentally demanding. I know people like us who are software engineers so I guess it's doable.

I have a good friend who keeps telling me that it's as easy as getting some understanding and doing a boot camp.

#1 - He had savings from poker and put all his eggs in the coding basket
#2 - Sharp guy
#3 - He still had to work some shitty jobs but did end up getting an amazing job after a year or two

Every time I talk to him he tells me I need to follow up on coding. It's hard to work hard at something shitty for 40 hours a week. Selling clothing is a rather benign thing to do. Selling clothing is a rather banal thing to do. If I really loved coding I wouldn't listen to anyone and I would just do it. Sometimes this is the case but it is certainly not always the case.

Also, what exactly did you mean by "people like us"?

Persons with mental health and substance abuse issues?

Mentally ill people