And so it begins - Page 2

On September 21 2008 23:29 TenBagger wrote: I hope you don't take what I'm gonna say negatively because I'm not meaning to put you down and it really is sincere... I hate saying this because I end up sounding like my parents, but I'm a lot older than you are, I've made many mistakes in my youth and I've seen many different situations. And I truly believe that the one thing that is holding you back is this mentality that you're entitled to something. Like for example, you haven't even gone to this interview yet and you say that you are a shoe-in. Or whenever someone takes down a big tourney, you go "I'm so due". Or how you talk about how you crush so and so stakes. Look, self confidence is a good thing, but there is a point where it actually is detrimental. People think that successful people are that way because they think big and aim high. That is true but more importantly, they do things one step at a time. While they may have the bigger picture in mind, they focus on the immediate task at hand. Your mindset is evident in the way you approach poker. You have this 0 - 100K goal. Thing is, you need to take that one step at a time, while you may have in mind a goal that you want to hit 100K, that isn't what you should be thinking about day in and day out. You should focus first on 100$ and take it step by step. I've seen many people with really big ambitions always talk about making it big in life and always going for the home run. I was like that myself for quite some time. I've realized that the common thread in successful people is that they are more practical about their goals. They plan long term but focus on getting closer step by step rather than trying to get it all in one shot and that way, they set themselves up for success rather than failure. And success breeds success. Interestingly, I've known quite a few people who share your mindset, with me 7 years ago being one of them. And every single one also does the same thing that you do constantly, which is talk about your successes before they happen. Like you haven't even gotten this job yet and you're already planning your move to NY and how you're gonna be ballin and saving, etc. This is consistent with the whole not going step by step thing that I've talked about. You can't imagine how many times I've heard people say oh, I'm gonna be a baller cuz I just became a stock broker or a day trader or joined a forex trading desk, etc. And I'm gonna buy this and that and I'm gonna be a baller! The guys that talk about how baller they are gonna be NEVER became ballers. The true ballers were focused on actually getting things done and getting ahead while the fools were in their own little world daydreaming about how baller they gonna be. I wish you the best of luck on this and I hope everything works out. I'm just speaking from experience that there are a lot of opportunities that seem really good but are in actuality just a dead end job that pays well only for a select few while the rest make peanuts. Despite everything that I've said, I do think that you're a smart guy and if you take a better more practical approach to life, I think you can be successful. And NY is a really tough place for a farm boy. If things do pan out and you decide to move here, I'll help you out as much as I can.

you're spot on about my ambitions being too big but I also don't post all of the smaller details. I don't think I'm a shoe-in for the job It's just what i was actually told and basically the interview is just finalizing it all. Unless i somehow completely fuck up everything at my interview today I have the job from everything that I know. I'm basically the perfect canidate for what they want, excellent computer skills, young and I'm not leaving anything at home to distract me from work or anything like that.

As for poker the 100k thing is just something to drive me because it's something that i want really, really badly. I've played enough poker and believe (maybe incorrectly because im delusional about my goals and stuff like you said) that I have the skillset waiting to do it and whatever else, It's the perfect thing to aim for because it will basically just require me to go up 1 limit a month to attain and that's all i want is to start progressing through poker and not as you put it"going for the homerun" which is ALWAYS what i do and I go busto.

You really summed me up well in your post it's almost scary.

I just reread my post and it kinda sounded condescending. Thing is that is totally not what I meant by it.

More than anything, I was talking about my maturation process and the changes that I've made in how I approach life and how that has helped me succeed in life.

I too had this sense of entitlement. I thought I was the smartest guy and that everything would come easy. I had the best grades and I went to the top school, etc. Of course then I started smoking weed in 9th grade and by 11th grade, I was snorting massive amounts of coke everyday. I threw away an incredible opportunity because of drugs. I thought I was too good to do entry level jobs and I sat there thinking about how I'd hit a homerun and become the baller that I thought I was entitled to be. .

That mindset will get you nowhere in life and I learned that the hard way. No one gives a fuck about you, in fact the whole world is full of people trying to gain at your expense. Anyway, my advice to you would be to throw that mindset out the window. Rather than being so sure that you are the perfect candidate, spend more time and effort practicing for your interview. Read interview guides out there and go through mock questions. Do all that you can do to improve your chances. That's the type of thing that a successful person does, while the loser sits on his ass thinking that the interview is gonna be a shoe-in.

Wise words tenbagger

On September 21 2008 21:02 CrownRoyal wrote: The way I feel im pretty sure is comparable to a felon in the real world. I can't do anything right...even if i do some random fag

you say your a computer nerd...but obv terrible grammer. I just quoted u saying u do random fags...
j/k w/ u man i like ya take it easy

if anyone is scum on this website, it's me b/c i'm not a pussy whose afraid of guns and cries about it.

gl in zoo york man. And it'll be a hella lot different. It's different for me going from arlington (50th biggest city in the US w/ a pop. of 400,000) to dallas.

good luck man, where in new york city are you going to live?
i've lived here all my life so if there's anything you need to know you can ask me

Wow good advice sir. im deffinently that loser you speak of, tenbagger.

Best of luck with everything CR.

And tenbagger, man, sounds like you've had an interesting life thus far. Good to read that you're doing well.

Retitle this: "Sensei TenBagger's Lessons of Life" imo -_-