And yea, I know that sounds harsh and it's probably not true but I really got annoyed with people a few days ago. I have this "buddy" whom I've known for a very long time and been somewhat close too. He's never been the kind of guy I've trusted with important emotional shit really, but still someone I'd hung out with more then almost anyone else for a lot of years. I was ranting to him about how I considered one of the girls he knows a piece of crap for apparently having cheated on some guy and stated that I found it appalling how his other friend always made jokes about cheating on people in a way I considered more then a little bit offensive. I've got nothing against sexual promiscuously at all (fuck, my favourite book is "Stranger in a Strange Land", and I don't mind people joking about pretty much anything unless the situation calls for some class, but cheating on people just plain sucks.
Instead of the usual nod and "yea yea, that sucks man" I assumed I'd get as a reply he says something about how her bf apparently wasn't used to being in relationships and didn't really put up enough of an effort in some areas and then he goes quiet. I decided to shut up since I did recognize that it was probably in poor taste to question someone's friend's moral character without knowing all the facts.
At a party for my buddy a few days later some girls are joking about how they all slept with him and someone makes a "funny remark" about how he's so weird and why did they sleep with him. One of them says that "yea well, back in blablabla I used to love him a little bit". I'm slightly intoxicated but something feels weird. Then it dawns on me that he had a long time gf at the time, so I joke right back about that. I still don't really know if I believe it but three people, two girls he's slept with and his own brother, stated more or less that he did cheat on this girl. I never really got to know her, and as far as I can remember I thought fairly poorly about her, but it still just sucks.
I guess I should just leave it alone, because I don't care enough about him to actually feel that it's super important that he knows when I don't approve of shit, and in a month or 6 weeks I won't spend as much time with him any more for various reasons I can't do much about. I've done a lot of less then honourable things. I once slept with a fat chick and jumped out of her window while she was sleeping. At one point I kept sleeping with some girl just because "she'll leave the country soon, so I don't have to worry about it". I'm fairly sure I hurt one girl, even though I for the life of me can not figure out how (she was from another country and I think it was a cultural thing). But as far as relationships goes I've never hurt someone other then by mistake. And during the sorts spans when I've been in relationships, I've never cheated.
But on the other hand there's a lot of beautiful things in the world. I guess I should focus on that.
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superfashion United States. Jan 24 2011 05:41. Posts 918
I once slept with a fat chick and jumped out of her window while she was sleeping.
but yeah definitely agree on the whole cheating thing. one of my best friends was cheating on his gf (a semi-old acquaintance/friend of mine) with her best friend (who is kinda emotionally fucked up) while her best friend was dating a guy that my friend and i used to be really good friends with. no idea what the situation is now but i lost a ton of respect for everyone involved, and ended up feeling really bad for my friend's now ex-gf even though i didn't really like her that much to begin with. the sick thing is i don't think she knows the whole thing even happened and still hangs out with the friend who fucked her boyfriend while they were dating. just blows my mind how someone can be in a relationship and have the indecency to sleep with someone else other than they girl/boyfriend...if you don't want to be with a person, just break up with them? doesn't seem all that difficult to me but what do i know
shoving here as a bluff at 50NL is like explaning calcalus to a 6 month old cat wtf are you thinking - TalentedTom
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morph1 Sierra Leone. Jan 24 2011 05:47. Posts 2352
AndrewSong United States. Jan 24 2011 06:23. Posts 2355
I've never cheated on my girlfriends and probably never will but I don't see nothing wrong with cheating unless its done to me. Even if I was cheated, I would blame more on my self for dating a slut and not being enough of a boss to let her think cheating me would be fine.
I think it's wrong to judge others when they're doing you no harm. It's simply a different approach to living life. My dad has never cheated on my mom and I respect that so I'm approaching life in similar ways so I don't form a bad habit for my future marriage. That said, I truly believe cheating is +ev in life long as you don't get caught. It's pain in the ass to be fully committed to one girl when you're sexy as fuck.
On January 24 2011 05:23 AndrewSong wrote:
That said, I truly believe cheating is +ev in life long as you don't get caught. It's pain in the ass to be fully committed to one girl when you're sexy as fuck.
wait, was this a joke? so life is about getting laid as much as possible, no matter the consequences? fucked up thing to say
Do not push the river, it will flow by itself. - Polish proverb
Most men (and I'm being generous here) don't cheat because they usually don't have a gorgeous babe throwing herself on their feet asking for a quickie.
I'm fairly certain that you can't easily explain a concept like that to a woman that you're interested in forming a relationship with,in order to avoid the possibility of being dishonest in the future.
People say lies to each other all the time to form their romantic relationships,they even lie to themselves (or don't understand themselves well enough) and make commitments that are in all probability impossible to hold. So yeah,people suck ,but not because they cheat,but because they can't relate to each other without sugarcoating everything.
ps I haven't cheated anyone to date but it's probably because the persistent gorgeous babe scenario hasn't materialized (yet!!)
all these reminded me of this video for some reason, hilarious lyrics:
new shit has come to light... a-and... shit! man...
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AndrewSong United States. Jan 24 2011 09:22. Posts 2355
On January 24 2011 05:23 AndrewSong wrote:
That said, I truly believe cheating is +ev in life long as you don't get caught. It's pain in the ass to be fully committed to one girl when you're sexy as fuck.
wait, was this a joke? so life is about getting laid as much as possible, no matter the consequences? fucked up thing to say
Nah not really. It's not cheating if you get caught. That's being a moron.
Put it this way.. Which one would you prefer if you were a girl?
1) Loyal boyfriend who do not cheat but isn't super nice. Romantic relationship you once had died over time since guys are animals who get too used to/sick of being with one girl. He's par on everything and doesn't fulfill your dream of shining knight in armor.
2) Cheater boyfriend who you have no idea and thinks he's super loyal. He's the best any girl can ever wish for and fulfills all your loving wishes even more so since he is feeling guilty of banging other chicks. He makes your life happier then you can ever imagine.
It's hard not to cheat when the girl is hot enough, knows you made some sort of connection makes a solid move and reads you well. A hot attractive girl is extremely hard to resist if she knows how to play her cards right - I used to judge a friend of mine a lot about this till I cheated myself.
Number 2 is all based on a big lie so I dont think its a no brainer. I also dont think its wrong to judge people that cheat as its like the ugliest thing you can do to someone in a relationship and therefore this person probably isnt as honest to other people aswell. And lol about making a difference between cheaters that get caught and those who doesnt both suck. Just get a girl thats cool with a open relationship or get along with one night stands whats the point in cheating people behind their back?
On January 24 2011 05:23 AndrewSong wrote:
That said, I truly believe cheating is +ev in life long as you don't get caught. It's pain in the ass to be fully committed to one girl when you're sexy as fuck.
wait, was this a joke? so life is about getting laid as much as possible, no matter the consequences? fucked up thing to say
Nah not really. It's not cheating if you get caught. That's being a moron.
Put it this way.. Which one would you prefer if you were a girl?
1) Loyal boyfriend who do not cheat but isn't super nice. Romantic relationship you once had died over time since guys are animals who get too used to/sick of being with one girl. He's par on everything and doesn't fulfill your dream of shining knight in armor.
2) Cheater boyfriend who you have no idea and thinks he's super loyal. He's the best any girl can ever wish for and fulfills all your loving wishes even more so since he is feeling guilty of banging other chicks. He makes your life happier then you can ever imagine.
No brainer?
this doesn't really make a lot of sense because if i was a woman and these were my only two options, i would avoid being in a relationship entirely
shoving here as a bluff at 50NL is like explaning calcalus to a 6 month old cat wtf are you thinking - TalentedTom
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terrybunny19240 United States. Jan 24 2011 10:11. Posts 13829
Just get an open relationship if you don't want to be monogamous imo
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AndrewSong United States. Jan 24 2011 10:36. Posts 2355
On January 24 2011 08:52 pinbaLL wrote:
Cheating is the nut low anyways (if you're supposed to have a serious relationship at least).
so its ok to cheat if your not in a serious relationship?
maybe I'm on another level. I truly believe that men are superior to women and we can cheat if we wish. open relationship is plain retarded IMO. Any girl that's fine with open relationship is a slut. If your against cheating, and you want to have sex with multiple women, don't be in a relationship period.
On January 24 2011 09:46 def_jammer wrote:
hope thats a level because otherwise I cant understand how your smart enough to beat the high stakes.
by cheating perhaps?
lol good one
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casinocasino Canada. Jan 24 2011 11:26. Posts 3347
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AndrewSong United States. Jan 24 2011 11:32. Posts 2355
On January 24 2011 09:46 def_jammer wrote:
hope thats a level because otherwise I cant understand how your smart enough to beat the high stakes.
Reason why I can beat higher stakes then you is because I'm capable of thinking out the box =) Men are superior then women. Don't let the media fool you. They were our slaves past 20+ centuries let's not forget
On January 24 2011 08:52 pinbaLL wrote:
Cheating is the nut low anyways (if you're supposed to have a serious relationship at least).
so its ok to cheat if your not in a serious relationship?
maybe I'm on another level. I truly believe that men are superior to women and we can cheat if we wish. open relationship is plain retarded IMO. Any girl that's fine with open relationship is a slut. If your against cheating, and you want to have sex with multiple women, don't be in a relationship period.
Agree on some parts. I think we're (as men) equipped with physical and intellectual tools that place on a far higher level for potential achievement. That said, 95% of dudes out there are too lazy to ever tap into this and are generally happy being the "dumb, cute bf" rather than the strong, masculine leader and so women end up overtaking them professionally and within the relationship as well. Media and popular culture also loves to spread the idea of the woman who has it all together and her dumb bf who fucks up.
I'm a huge practitioner of the open relationship (going on 4 years with my main gf, 2 years with a secondary, and have three other fuckbuddies). The main reason I disagree on the value of an open relationship is that this isn't the Medieval era anymore. You can't own women in today's society. To attempt to do so with rules of monogamy and exclusivity is futile and lowers your overall value in the relationship.
I know several boss dudes who have serious gfs and cheat, but I personally don't think it's the cheating that makes the whole thing work. It all comes down to them having options and being willing to walk away (a power that only comes when you have other pussy available to you). You can be completely honest about your own promiscuity and still own a girl's heart forever. I understand that you might want to maintain an exclusive front so you can try to control your main gf's pussy while fucking other girls to your heart's content, but that's just an illusion IMO - girls enjoy testing out new dick just as much as guys enjoy new pussy and there's no way some relationship contract or monogamy rule is going to stop them if that's what they feel/desire in the moment.
On January 24 2011 09:46 def_jammer wrote:
hope thats a level because otherwise I cant understand how your smart enough to beat the high stakes.
Reason why I can beat higher stakes then you is because I'm capable of thinking out the box =) Men are superior then women. Don't let the media fool you. They were our slaves past 20+ centuries let's not forget
Im by no means into women right movements or something but your point of view is pretty dumb and disgusting
LOL
everyone defending women WTF?
step on them so they respect you.
if you cheat to a girl she's obv not the love of your life, untill you find it you can do whatever you want.
On January 24 2011 05:23 AndrewSong wrote:
I've never cheated on my girlfriends and probably never will but I don't see nothing wrong with cheating unless its done to me. Even if I was cheated, I would blame more on my self for dating a slut and not being enough of a boss to let her think cheating me would be fine.
I think it's wrong to judge others when they're doing you no harm. It's simply a different approach to living life. My dad has never cheated on my mom and I respect that so I'm approaching life in similar ways so I don't form a bad habit for my future marriage. That said, I truly believe cheating is +ev in life long as you don't get caught. It's pain in the ass to be fully committed to one girl when you're sexy as fuck.
cheating +ev? are you sure you didn't mean -ev?
It's like saying shoving 72o all in pre flop is +EV as long as everybody folds
you can't just put conditions, it is either +EV or -EV, flat out.
Im not sure what to do tomorrow when I see her, should I shake her hand?? -Floofy
my feelings on the main issue of other ppl cheating is that you should stay out of it and lock any info away. don't get involved ever. i think the parties involved usually know what's up. if they don't they will. then they either don't care or delude themselves or cheat back or break up or w/e. if i had information though and a friend asked me i wouldn't lie to them. i have never heard of that happening though if you don't ever gossip about it w/ anyone and it's as if you have no info.
this might be a cool thread topic though. even though he worded it like a crazy person douchebag, andrewsong has some good points. i think it's possible a compelling argument could be made for cheating just not by him. especially depending on how one defines cheating.
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AndrewSong United States. Jan 24 2011 15:50. Posts 2355
On January 24 2011 14:11 RiKD wrote:
this might be a cool thread topic though. even though he worded it like a crazy person douchebag, andrewsong has some good points. i think it's possible a compelling argument could be made for cheating just not by him. especially depending on how one defines cheating.
Hahaha I lold. Sorry I couldn't deliver. I pulled an all nighter and now I'm grinding turbo event at Borg to fix my sleeping schedule . It's hard to write out a wellput post when I'm typing on my iPhone
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traxamillion United States. Jan 24 2011 16:03. Posts 10468
On January 24 2011 05:23 AndrewSong wrote:
That said, I truly believe cheating is +ev in life long as you don't get caught. It's pain in the ass to be fully committed to one girl when you're sexy as fuck.
wait, was this a joke? so life is about getting laid as much as possible, no matter the consequences? fucked up thing to say
Nah not really. It's not cheating if you get caught. That's being a moron.
Put it this way.. Which one would you prefer if you were a girl?
1) Loyal boyfriend who do not cheat but isn't super nice. Romantic relationship you once had died over time since guys are animals who get too used to/sick of being with one girl. He's par on everything and doesn't fulfill your dream of shining knight in armor.
2) Cheater boyfriend who you have no idea and thinks he's super loyal. He's the best any girl can ever wish for and fulfills all your loving wishes even more so since he is feeling guilty of banging other chicks. He makes your life happier then you can ever imagine.
No brainer?
girls would obviously take one. and girls think about fucking other dudes when in a relationship same as men.
we all human mang
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traxamillion United States. Jan 24 2011 16:06. Posts 10468
On January 24 2011 09:46 def_jammer wrote:
hope thats a level because otherwise I cant understand how your smart enough to beat the high stakes.
Reason why I can beat higher stakes then you is because I'm capable of thinking out the box =) Men are superior then women. Don't let the media fool you. They were our slaves past 20+ centuries let's not forget
no shit men are stronger than women .. new isaac newton here
ive cheated, hyperactive libidy and sex with one person gets boring theres something missing, sex is besides love however i dont have the strength yet to allow someone i love to have sex with somebody else... so it sucks oh well.
Anyway misanthropy based on such a shallow crap is absurd, i hate people but for much more meaningful reasons.
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DooMeR United States. Jan 24 2011 18:49. Posts 8562
i skipped through most comments and only mostly read andrews. I agree that men are superior to women but i disagree that cheating is +EV and ok for men. Its kind of like saying ignorant people from the ghetto should not be allowed to vote because they arent educated in political issues. Out of fairness we cant do that. Thus they have to be treated equally.
There are other solutions besides cheating. but there really isn't a fair way to be able to date other women without allowing them the same deal. That said. All it takes is a man awesome enough and the women wont leave and he can do whatever he wants.
the ez reading details of my opinion on women is that they are emotionally weaker than men thus make worse decisions and more easily manipulated = men superior.
I just saved a bunch of money on my car insurance, by running away from the scene of an accident.
On January 24 2011 14:11 RiKD wrote:
my feelings on the main issue of other ppl cheating is that you should stay out of it and lock any info away. don't get involved ever. i think the parties involved usually know what's up. if they don't they will. then they either don't care or delude themselves or cheat back or break up or w/e. if i had information though and a friend asked me i wouldn't lie to them. i have never heard of that happening though if you don't ever gossip about it w/ anyone and it's as if you have no info.
this might be a cool thread topic though. even though he worded it like a crazy person douchebag, andrewsong has some good points. i think it's possible a compelling argument could be made for cheating just not by him. especially depending on how one defines cheating.
are you for real?
you woun't tell a friend of yours his girl cheated on him?You have to do it ASAP.Any sane person will be mad at you when he know the truth ...
Ofc you keep quite what your buddy's do with other girls just to be clear.
I cant wait to take their money
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DooMeR United States. Jan 24 2011 19:24. Posts 8562
On January 24 2011 17:47 Baal wrote:
ive cheated, hyperactive libidy and sex with one person gets boring theres something missing, sex is besides love however i dont have the strength yet to allow someone i love to have sex with somebody else... so it sucks oh well.
Anyway misanthropy based on such a shallow crap is absurd, i hate people but for much more meaningful reasons.
i disagree. i find cheating among the lowest forms of untrustworthy and weakness.
Put it this way. you "love" somebody and you do the most hurtful thing to that person possible. This is based on the assumption that the pair is monogamous and somewhat romantic view of relationships i realize this but assume that is the case. If someone does this to another person. it means they are weak minded for not breaking up with them first, because they were being unsatisfied in the relationship. And a totally selfish person only looking out for what makes them feel happy. Thus they are guided by their emotions into doing things to seek that happiness and their "agreement" in essence means nothing. Because it is not being fulfilled. Now, this means that in the best of circumstances for caring for someone. Meaning, this is their "love". They cannot stop themselves from hurting them in the strongest way possible. Logic would lead to the conclusion that that person at his best cannot satisfy the simplest of pacts because their word is worthless. Thus they are untrustworthy selfish people. Because their is no substance to that persons word. If this is a person they care for more than anyone else (excluding mother's) and they cannot keep from hurting them to satisfy themselves. What would make them trustworthy when it comes to a more generic arrangement. Such as borrowing money?
Well generally they tend to pay back their debts pretty well. But their is a simple explanation for that. Their name. they will pay back their friends because it is in their best interest in maintaining that friendship but also in maintaining the ability to have support if they need help in the future. Also less emotional interest invested in money. That person wont really feel much different anyway if they have to pay back 100$ to a friend. So no big deal you can generally count on them to repay. Their are plenty of other situations to think of where people will be trustworthy. The point i am getting at is when. You get down to the nitty gritty of a relationship. All it is is words and emotions. And when the going gets tough and people decide to cheat. You see that their word isn't of any value when their is no collateral on the line. And they do not keep their word in what inherently should be the most critical agreement of their life (presently). A lot of people will see that if we disregard the idea of morals. Cheating is no big deal. Infact who cares it really wont affect your other friends in the least if you cheat on your girlfriend. But what people fail to realize is that keeping your word when you give it. Is what seperates the weak from the strong. Its a testament to the character of a person and how they will act when the going gets tough. In just about any situation. And you know this because of how they conduct themselves in the most intimate of situations. When what they do inherently without counting morals doesn't matter, and they have the ability to act selfishly with complete disregard yet decide not to. To fulfill their promise. So you see you can see very deep into the core of what makes a person tick when he can act without consequence but chooses not to.
I understand that this is again. The generic romantic view of a relationship but that is what i am assuming is being discussed in this blog for the most part.
I just saved a bunch of money on my car insurance, by running away from the scene of an accident.
I've read mostly AndrewSong/Sanai's post and I agree on the part that we are smarter/stronger than women, but not sure if the word "superior" is the appropiate, mainly different; also agree most people dont cheat on their girlfriends cause the dont have another eager blond craving their dicks.
I disagree on that being "superior" entitles us to cheat on them. If anything as rational superior beings we either commit to what we promise or do not make a promise in the first place. Wheter bitches cheat on boyfriends or not (which i'm sure they do often) is not an excuse to do it ourselves, it's like saying we shouldnt jam AA preflop cause we might get suckout.
On January 24 2011 17:47 Baal wrote:
ive cheated, hyperactive libidy and sex with one person gets boring theres something missing, sex is besides love however i dont have the strength yet to allow someone i love to have sex with somebody else... so it sucks oh well.
Anyway misanthropy based on such a shallow crap is absurd, i hate people but for much more meaningful reasons.
i disagree. i find cheating among the lowest forms of untrustworthy and weakness.
not even close, that is very naive and childish.
People suck because the world is a sewer full of injustice, misery and violence and everybody is indifferent to it, not because of this ridiculous trivial arbitrary social rule is broken.
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casinocasino Canada. Jan 24 2011 20:45. Posts 3347
A generation of men raised by women. I’m wondering if another woman is the answer we really need.
both are equally necessary to continue human existence. plus for those who say men are so vastly superior to women, where would you be without your mom?
On January 24 2011 14:11 RiKD wrote:
my feelings on the main issue of other ppl cheating is that you should stay out of it and lock any info away. don't get involved ever. i think the parties involved usually know what's up. if they don't they will. then they either don't care or delude themselves or cheat back or break up or w/e. if i had information though and a friend asked me i wouldn't lie to them. i have never heard of that happening though if you don't ever gossip about it w/ anyone and it's as if you have no info.
this might be a cool thread topic though. even though he worded it like a crazy person douchebag, andrewsong has some good points. i think it's possible a compelling argument could be made for cheating just not by him. especially depending on how one defines cheating.
are you for real?
you woun't tell a friend of yours his girl cheated on him?You have to do it ASAP.Any sane person will be mad at you when he know the truth ...
Ofc you keep quite what your buddy's do with other girls just to be clear.
from my experience it's a bad idea. unless you are the one she is cheating on him with or you somehow saw her giving someone a handjob or something you don't have the full truth. i'm not gonna play telephone over something that is not my business. in basically all cases that something like this has happened to a friend or someone i knew that person had to know it was coming, already knew it was happening, would find out it was happening, pretending it was not happening, or the relationship was at a point that they were all but broken up but avoiding doing it officially.
i suppose if i knew some guy cheated on my sister or a close female friend i would tell them b/c it's possible for them to be completely oblivious since everything can be going great and a guy can potentially cheat just b/c he found a hot new shiny vagina that will let him take it for a spin.
fuck I should just sell some of my Pokemon cards, if no one stakes that is what I will have to do - lostaccount
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AndrewSong United States. Jan 24 2011 23:23. Posts 2355
On January 24 2011 20:22 Loco wrote:
wow AndrewSong is pathetic...
Dude, don't come off insulting me just because your pussy ass view differs to mine. Problem with LP is that half u guys treat this as online fantasy world and say whatever u want to others when you'd act as well mannered
gentlemen infront of their face.
Realize that if your gonna pursue poker long-term, we're probably gonna face one way or another when you graduate ur "career inside a box". If you don't want bad blood with another reg, think twice before running your mouth.
I'm quite surprised how most are seemingly clueless beside few. I definitely worded alot of stuff bit too harsh/worsely put but there's still alot of truth to it. I want to emphasize again that I have never cheated on my girlfriends and I'm currently in 4th year in my latest relationship. Most of that 4years being long distance and she still lives 3hrs away although she's with me on the weekends.
When i was younger i used to have STRONGER belief that cheating is wrong so i understand the heat. Reason behind my belief was that Im also the type of guy who values trust and friendship more then anything in life. So when i looked at people cheating on their significant other, I saw them as a con that could cheat my self and i didnt want to be part of that.
Putting females chemistry and what triggers attractions aside, one thing that made me view cheating differently is that there's alot of people out there who I can still trust my life and bankrolls even though theyre cheaters in relationship. This took me alot of time to understand. Some guys just view women as different species(my self included) so although they would never cheat their friends, they uncontiously do it in relationships.
I'm a big believer that girls can be your life long friend as well which is why I don't cheat period. I think that's what makes the difference in trustworthy guys/girls who cheat. They simply don't see other person as someone youll keep around as friends for rest of your life.
That said, I still stand by my word that cheating is +ev if ur plan is not having the person around for rest of your life which is MAJORITY of the case in relationship.
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AndrewSong United States. Jan 24 2011 23:30. Posts 2355
Oh yeah also, if u find out ur close friend is being cheated and you don't do shit about it, you need a reality check. You should out the bitch soon as u can and take part in putting the bitch to shame if that's the way your boy wants to handle it. Your friends are the only ones who should be cheating and having fun. Not the other way around.
RiKD- what would u want ur friends to do if u were being cheated? Yeh
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Bigbobm United States. Jan 25 2011 01:07. Posts 5512
reality check indeed.
Its time to stop thinking like a bitch and think smart like a poker player - ket
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soberstone United States. Jan 25 2011 02:24. Posts 2662
On January 24 2011 09:46 def_jammer wrote:
hope thats a level because otherwise I cant understand how your smart enough to beat the high stakes.
Reason why I can beat higher stakes then you is because I'm capable of thinking out the box =) Men are superior then women. Don't let the media fool you. They were our slaves past 20+ centuries let's not forget
no shit men are stronger than women .. new isaac newton here
I rofled and then saw that you posted this and then rofled some more
On January 24 2011 22:23 AndrewSong wrote:
When i was younger i used to have STRONGER belief that cheating is wrong so i understand the heat. Reason behind my belief was that Im also the type of guy who values trust and friendship more then anything in life. So when i looked at people cheating on their significant other, I saw them as a con that could cheat my self and i didnt want to be part of that.
Putting females chemistry and what triggers attractions aside, one thing that made me view cheating differently is that there's alot of people out there who I can still trust my life and bankrolls even though theyre cheaters in relationship. This took me alot of time to understand. Some guys just view women as different species(my self included) so although they would never cheat their friends, they uncontiously do it in relationships.
So just to clairify; You felt that cheating was wrong because it implied that you couldn't trust the guy, not that the act in itself was wrong. Yet you believe that if someone would cheat you regarding money or whatever it'd be "wrong" or at least bad, right?
So the act of getting a woman to believe that you two is in a monogamous relationship, ie: have an understanding that you two will not cheat, would not be wrong in itself despite the fact that you would not consider it wrong to cheat is not wrong in itself?
I'm no feminist by no means but I find it weird that someone would consider it wrong to break agreements with men but not with women. Would you care to elaborate?
On January 24 2011 22:30 AndrewSong wrote:
Oh yeah also, if u find out ur close friend is being cheated and you don't do shit about it, you need a reality check. You should out the bitch soon as u can and take part in putting the bitch to shame if that's the way your boy wants to handle it. Your friends are the only ones who should be cheating and having fun. Not the other way around.
RiKD- what would u want ur friends to do if u were being cheated? Yeh
if a girl was cheating on me i would assume it was my fault. girls cheat b/c the guy is worse than advertised or stops working. if i think to ask i already know the answer to the question or at least the relationship is in trouble and i need to consider whether stepping my game up to try and fix the relationship or breaking it off and sleeping with other women is the better option.
how are my friends supposed to know i was cheated? in my experiences most women are ridic stealth. unless they were the ones cheating with her or saw her enter a room w/ a guy alone and heard moaning, saw her leave w/ a sex flush + bed head (which i've never heard of happening in real life) how would they know?
if someone had reliable info from trusted friend to that dude that gets too drunk and just unleashes unfiltered honesty then yeah knowing would be better than not.
"hey man i saw your girl talking w/ her ex steven the other night"
i mean that's all well and good but...
if you took her to that Italian restaurant she loves and gave her multiple orgasms later that night do you really give a fuck?
if you spent the last 3 weekends ordering pizzas and playing xbox live and vape baggin til you pass out when she hates pizzas, xbox live, and when you smoke do you really give a fuck about the relationship?
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, and I don't mind people joking about pretty much anything unless the situation calls for some class, but cheating on people just plain sucks. 
United States. Jan 24 2011 06:23. Posts 2355
